The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

35: (7 Ways) How to make HIM realise your WORTH + VALUE YOU again

👩🏻‍💻📚 FREE Attachment Library:
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💖 Are you feeling undervalued in your relationship?
Discover 7 powerful ways to make him see your WORTH again (without manipulation)!
This episode reveals why proving yourself never works and what actually does. 🔥
Are you...
Constantly going above and beyond for his attention and approval?
Feeling invisible despite all the love and care you give?
Wondering "Am I enough for my partner?"
Trying to be the perfect partner but losing yourself in the process?
Checking your phone every 5 minutes to see if he texted back?
Canceling your plans just to be available for him?
BUT... the truth is your worth isn't tied to how much you give! Learn how setting boundaries, prioritizing yourself, and building self-confidence can transform your relationship from the inside out.
Perfect for anxious attachers ready to heal and attract the respect you deserve!
 
 
 
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✅ FREE QUIZZES: ✅
Find out YOUR Attachment Style:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
⭑ Relationship Anxiety Flowchart
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
💌181 Self-Love Ideas-Detach & Thrive
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/selfloveideas
20 MUST-HAVE 🏰 Boundary ✅ CHECKLIST for Anxious Attachers
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/boundary
 
📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO.
(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
 
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
 
🖤 Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good? 🖤
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📖 CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Your Worth in Relationships02:46 Why Proving Your Worth NEVER Works03:18 REASON 0104:06 REASON 0204:39 REASON 0305:20 REASON 0406:02 The Universal Laws Explain Why This Never Works06:10 REASON 0106:35 REASON 0206:56 REASON 0309:13 You want them to "STEP IT UP", while they want you to "CALM DOWN"10:34 Remember THIS about your WORTH13:19 What happens when you realise YOUR worth and STOP the chase?14:12 7 Ways to Make Him Realise Your Worth + Value You Again14:26 STEP 01. Set Boundaries from Self-Respect, Not Punishment 🛑17:08 STEP 02. Stop Focusing on Him and Prioritize Yourself 👑19:38 STEP 03. Communicate Clearly and Calmly...Not Impulsively 💬22:20 STEP 04. Take Care of Yourself 💆‍♀️28:29 STEP 05. Realize Your Worth is Unshakable 💎30:05 STEP 06. Build Your Own Life, Be OBSESSED With It + Fill Your Cup 🏆32:08 STEP 07. Treat Yourself Like You're the Prize 👑34:09 NEVER Forget this... About YOUR Worth and Value in Relationships
 

34: How to Stop ABANDONING Yourself in a Relationship in 4 Steps (& Heal Your Anxious Attachment)

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🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO. (👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Relationships & Heal Your Anxious Attachment in 4 Steps
 
Do you keep losing yourself in relationships? Are you constantly silencing your needs for approval and battling abandonment issues? This powerful episode reveals how to stop abandoning yourself in a relationship and finally heal your anxious attachment style!
Discover the exact process to overcome abandonment fears and fix your abandonment wound for good. If you're struggling with self-abandoning behaviors or wondering how to meet your needs in a relationship, this episode gives you the complete roadmap to healing your abandonment wound and stopping the cycle of abandonment issues.
I'll share the life-changing inner child work and reparenting techniques that helped me stop losing yourself in relationships. Learn how to detach from a guy in a healthy way while setting boundaries that protect you from self abandoning again. This episode combines practical strategies for how to stop abandonment issues with deep healing techniques for your anxious attachment style.
 
🔑 What You'll Learn in this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast:
The 5 BIGGEST mistakes keeping you stuck in your abandonment wound
7 clear signs you're abandoning yourself in relationships
Why your nervous system responds to minor relationship shifts as life-threatening abandonment
The powerful 4R Method to heal anxious attachment: Release, Rewire, Reconnect, Reflect
How to meet your own emotional needs instead of desperately seeking external validation
 
FREE RESOURCES:
📚 FREE Attachment Library:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🔄 RELATIONSHIP NEEDS SERIES: Coming Soon in Part 4
Watch Now Part 2 NOW (Youtube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3_8ew8Q4wU&list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE&index=1&t=11s
(identify your top 2 UNMET needs, to avoid self-sabotage in your relationship)
 
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✅ FREE QUIZZES: ✅
Find out YOUR Attachment Style:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
✅ Find your TOP 2 UNMET Relationship NEEDS:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
 
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 Understanding Self-Abandonment in Relationships
01:33 The 5 BIGGEST Mistakes Keeping You Stuck in Your Abandonment Wound 06:23 Are YOU Abandoning Yourself? 7 Signs
08:58 The REAL Reason WHY You Feel You HAVE to Abandon Yourself
12:36 Control, Cling, Escape: How Does Your Nervous System Protect You?
17:40 How to STOP Worrying About Your Partner Leaving You FOR GOOD 19:19 The ROOT of YOUR Abandonment Fear (In Your Upbringing)
21:26 4 Steps to HEAL Abandonment Wounds: Release, Rewire, Reconnect, Reflect
33:16 The POWERFUL Mindset Shift You HAVE to Know to HEAL
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

33: Identifying Your 2 Unmet Needs: The Secret to Stop Self-Sabotage (PART 02)

FREE Discover YOUR top 2 UNMET Relationship Needs (to stop sabotage)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
 
Discover Why You're Secretly Sabotaging Your Relationships
Are you always in your head about your relationship? Constantly checking their texts or feeling anxious when they don't reply right away? You're not alone!
This episode reveals how your unmet relationship needs are secretly causing your relationship anxiety and self-sabotage. You'll discover why you might be overthinking texts, feeling disconnected, or constantly seeking reassurance from your partner. I'll guide you through identifying your top 2-3 core needs using Tony Robbins' framework and show you exactly which needs are most common for anxious attachers.
By the end, you'll understand how childhood wounds created your current relationship patterns and why you might be unconsciously outsourcing your needs to your partner. Plus, you'll learn practical ways to fulfill these needs yourself instead of falling into the trap of neediness, overgiving, or relationship anxiety. No more running on autopilot - it's time to take control of your relationship needs and stop the self-sabotage cycle for good!
 
NEEDS YOUTUBE PLAYLIST:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE
 
ON SALE Attachment 101 Master Guide only 7 EURO.
(Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
PRIVATE COACHING
Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good?
Book A free Call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
FREE 3 min QUIZ: 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
 
🎧 WHAT WE'RE COVERING:
00:00 Understanding Unmet Needs in Relationships02:01 Signs You're Outsourcing Your Needs to Your Partner03:43 How Childhood Wounds Create Unmet Needs in Adulthood05:59 The 6 Core Needs (Discover YOURS)07:51 CORE NEED 01: Certainty08:51 CORE NEED 02: Variety10:11 CORE NEED 03: Significance11:10 CORE NEED 04: Connection + Love12:01 CORE NEED 05: Growth14:26 CORE NEED 06: Contribution15:26 The Top 3 Unmet Core Needs for an Anxious Attachment Style18:46 How Unmet Needs Drive Self-Sabotage20:08 If Your Biggest Need is CERTAINTY...22:44 If Your Biggest Need is CONNECTION...23:39 If Your Biggest Need is SIGNIFICANCE...25:52 How to Fulfil your needs26:44 Your SHORT CUT to identify YOUR top 2 UNMET core needs27:56 Quick Summary of your UNMET core Needs
This is Part 2 of my relationship needs series! In Part 1, we already debunked the myth that you're "too needy" and learned how to identify healthy vs unhealthy needs.
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
#relationshipneeds #unmetneeds #attachmentstyle #anxiousattachment #selfsabotage #relationshipanxiety #emotionalneeds #childhoodwounds

32: Am I too needy? Healthy Needs vs. 🚩Unhealthy Needs: What's the Difference? (PART 01)

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HEALTHY VS UNHEALTHY NEEDS IN A RELATIONSHIP:
Am I Too Needy? What's the Difference?
Ever wondered "am I too needy in my relationship" or "am I asking for too much"? In this episode, I break down the EXACT difference between Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship so you can stop questioning yourself and start feeling secure!
Part 1 of my "Meet Your Relationship Needs" series where I help you transform your relationship with needs. Watch all 8 parts in the playlist below!
Am I too needy in my relationship? This comprehensive guide on Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship is exactly what you've been searching for to understand the difference between reasonable vs unreasonable relationship needs.
What You'll Learn:
Why having needs is NOT needy (it just makes you human!)
The complete guide to Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship
How to identify if your needs are reasonable vs unreasonable relationship needs
7 powerful journaling prompts to check if your needs come from security or fear
If you've been told you're "too sensitive" or you've pushed someone away because of anxious attachment, this video will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.
Healthy Needs vs. Unhealthy Needs: The Key Differences Learn to distinguish between core needs that support emotional safety and fear-based demands that create anxious-avoidant traps. Discover how unmet needs in relationships create unrealistic expectations that damage connection.
This episode is perfect for anyone struggling with anxious attachment who wants to break free from the anxious-avoidant relationship cycle!
NEEDS YOUTUBE PLAYLIST:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE
Coming Up in Part 2 (don't miss out on it) Discover your 3 unmet needs secretly driving your relationship behaviors. This is where everything starts to click for anxious attachers!
 
ON SALE Attachment 101 Master Guide only 7 EURO.
(Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
PRIVATE COACHING
Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good?
Book A free Call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
FREE 3 min QUIZ: 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

31: 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST

🔓 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST | Stop the obsession & reclaim your power 🔓
Discover how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST through these proven 4 steps. If you're constantly obsessing over someone, checking their social media, and feeling anxious when they don't respond, this episode is for YOU.
I'm sharing guaranteed ways to emotionally detach that have transformed my life and my clients' relationships. These guaranteed ways to emotionally detach will help you break free from attachment without losing your ability to love. When you learn how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you'll finally escape the endless cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and emotional dependency.
In this deeply personal episode, I share my 30-year journey from anxious attachment to emotional freedom, with relationship advice for women and relationship advice for men seeking to heal. These 4 powerful steps will help you stop obsessing over him/her and start reclaiming your own life.
The truth? When you DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you actually become more attractive! I'll show you exactly how to emotionally detach without shutting down your heart.
 
🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
8 hidden reasons why you can't let go of someone you love
How to DETACH yourself from someone you love while still being open to love
4 guaranteed ways to emotionally detach and rebuild your self-trust
The secret to stop obsessing over someone who doesn't value you
How to transform anxious attachment into secure confidence
Why detachment is actually the key to re-attracting an avoidant
 
📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐
Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing
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🎁 FREE RESOURCES: ⭑ Attachment Library: 25+ resources
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
⭑ Relationship Anxiety Flowchart
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
 
📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO.
(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
 
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
🖤 Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good? 🖤
Book A free call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST02:23 Quick Intro of who I am04:52 The 4 Steps to Emotional Detachment04:58 STEP 01: UNDERSTANDING WHY YOU'RE ATTACHED (7 Reasons)05:03 Reason #1: You put them on a PEDESTAL05:45 Reason #2: You have NEGATIVE BIAS in REVERSE07:20 Reason #3: You've never learned to fulfill your OWN needs12:28 Reason #4: You believe safety comes from OUTSIDE, not WITHIN14:19 Reason #5: You lack SELF-TRUST14:51 Reason #6: You're caught in REPETITION16:25 Reason #7: You're obsessed with CONTROL19:34 Reason #8: You've created a FALSE REALITY21:26 STEP 2: CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS24:23 STEP 03: MEET YOUR OWN NEEDS24:56 01. Give yourself what you need FIRST27:08 02. Create MORE sources to meet your needs29:03 STEP 04: ALIGNED ACTIONS29:52 How detach FAST33:55 Remember this...
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner

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🔍 Are you struggling with relationship red flags and don't know why your relationships keep “failing” or feel unfulfilling? In this deeply personal episode, I pull back the curtains on something most people don't want to admit - sometimes WE are the red flag in our anxious-avoidant relationships. As an anxious partner for 30 years, I understand the painful cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and relationship insecurity that comes with an anxious attachment style in relationships.
Do you experience these anxious attachment patterns?
You're constantly fishing for compliments, analyzing every mood shift as a sign something's wrong, turning silence into evidence of abandonment, and never quite believing your partner's reassurance. If this sounds familiar, you might be an anxious partner in an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic! This episode is specifically for YOU! 💕
I share how I transformed from an anxious partner plagued by relationship red flags into someone with a secure attachment style. Through understanding the anxious-avoidant trap and healing my core wounds, I've helped hundreds of clients break free from these painful relationship patterns too.
Discover what happens in the anxious partner's mind during the "chase" (a trauma response!), learn why anxious attachment style in relationships creates such intense emotions, and understand the anxious-avoidant relationship dance that keeps you stuck. I break down how to recognize anxious attachment behaviors, heal relationship red flags you might be creating, and transform your relationships from chaotic to calm and secure.
GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐 👉 Get on the waitlist (link below) for exclusive early-bird pricing!
7 Powerful Journaling Prompts to STOP Being the Red FLAG in Your Relationship📝✨
What's my biggest fear? 😱
What are three reasons I continue to act despite this fear? 🤔
If I weren't afraid of losing my partner or feeling like I'm not good enough, how would this change the way I show up in my relationship? ❤️‍🔥
Where am I putting too much focus on things I can't control? 🌪
What do I need to give myself in order to feel more secure? 🔐
What do I need to release or let go of to move forward? 🕊️
If I knew for sure that I would be happy and loved, how would I show up differently in my relationship and life? 🌟
START HERE (ON SALE🔥)
🖤 Check out my Attachment 101 Master Guide
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
 
📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE!
🔐 Get on the waitlist (link below) for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
🎁 FREE STUFF:
⭑ Attachment Library: 25 plus resources
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
⭑Youtube (@theanxioustosecurecoach): Say hi and watch the episodes as videos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5wSeO1Nhjo&list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&index=4
⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
⭑ Relationship Anxiety "he doesn't reply" Flowchart
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
 
🎓 MINI COURSES
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY Mini-Course: Stop Obsessing Over Text in 27 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
🖤 Stop Overthinking Your Relationship With Your Avoidant Partner in 4 Steps 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
✨ 1:1 SUPPORT ✨
🖤 Ready to become more SECURE? 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
🖤 Text and Talk Your Secure Attachment Coach—Right in Your Pocket!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
 
📖 CHAPTERS:
00:00 Relationship Red Flags Intro01:37 Why this is NOT about Shaming or Blaming Yourself02:51 10 Red Flag Relationship Lessons02:56 Lesson 1: Believing Relationships Should Be 50:5005:21 Lesson 2: Pushing "Healing" onto my partner and others07:24 Lesson 3: The Endless Chase: A Trauma Response09:51 Lesson 4: Reacting to Conflict Like It's a Crisis12:42 Lesson 5: Not Trusting Myself (or the Relationship)13:30 Lesson 6: Letting Fear and Anxiety Control My Actions16:19 Lesson 7: Mistaking Intensity for Intimacy17:55 Lesson 8: Ignoring My Core Wound Patterns19:13 Lesson 9: Failing to Set Loving Boundaries20:04 Lesson 10: Creating an Atmosphere of Criticism Instead of Appreciation21:38 The Ripple Effect of Healing23:28 7 Journaling Prompts to STOP being a Red Flag in Your Relationship
#AnxiousAttachment #RelationshipRedFlags #AttachmentTheory #AnxiousPartner #AnxiousAvoidantRelationship
 
Remember:
Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

29: WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's VALIDATION: 7 Powerful Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships

Are you a CHASER and your partner is ESCAPING (= pulling away and withdrawing)?
Then...
WATCH THIS before you CHASE your partner's validation: 7 POWERFUL Steps to STOP Being Insecure in Relationships 🔥
Because if you need a lot of approval, validation or reassurance... then we need to talk. THIS will trigger your (Avoidant) Partner's Core wounds of "help I'm losing independence"
Do you worry you're not good enough? This video reveals the exact process to break free from relationship insecurity once and for all.
I share my personal journey from constant validation-seeking to genuine confidence, including how gaining 20 kilos unexpectedly transformed my relationship with myself. Learn why your attachment patterns are sabotaging your connections and pushing partners away.
The 7-Step Insecurity Neutralizer that actually works:
Identify your specific triggers 🔍
Recognize your attachment patterns 🏷️
Connect to your past wounds 🔗
Challenge your limiting beliefs 🤔
Reframe your self-worth narrative 📝
Anchor yourself with positive emotions 🌬️
Take aligned action instead of seeking approval 👣
Discover why avoidant partners pull away when you chase validation and how to create a healthy dynamic instead. This isn't about temporary confidence fixes—it's about permanent transformation from insecurity to genuine self-worth.
 
LIBRARY
 Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc)
 
📢 ON SALE 📢 
 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less (it's never about the text..)Mini Course:
STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner in 4 STEPS Mini Course:
 
FREE STUFF
🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships 
21 WAYS to download the 🙋🏼‍♀️21 WAYS to STOP Abandoning yourself 
The Worry-Free Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety
Self Esteem KIT to learn to be GOOD ENOUGH, lovable and worthy from within
Stop Chasing Reassurance in 4 Steps
#howtoStopbeinginsecure #StopChasingValidation #AttachmentTheory #SelfWorth

28: How to Stop Being JEALOUS & COMPARING Yourself (Social Media, His Ex, TV & More) Around Your AVOIDANT Partner

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Are you struggling with relationship insecurity and worried your partner is comparing YOU to women on screen or in real life?
I've got you.
In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, discover the ROOT CAUSES of jealousy and comparison that nobody talks about!
Learn why you feel triggered by social media, his ex, or perfect bodies on TV, and how to FINALLY overcome these painful emotions.
and why jealousy NOT about your partner or the women...and more about YOU and your anxious attachment style.
This episode features a vulnerable listener question about dealing with PTSD and anxiety related to watching romantic tv scenes with her boyfriend.
She shares her past trauma and distrust with a partner who hid watching adult content and her Christian upbringing that taught men "couldn't control their thoughts." Now she fears her current partner will compare her to women on TV despite his reassurance.
I share transformative insights on:
Why jealousy reveals YOUR unworthiness wounds (not your partner's behavior)
How to stop comparing yourself to other women and break free from competition
Practical techniques to be more secure and confident in your relationship
Overcoming insecurity and building unshakable self-worth
Developing an abundance mindset that ends the comparison trap
Setting healthy boundaries with an avoidant partner
Healing the anxious attachment patterns fueling your jealousy
Strategies to stop feeling jealous and insecure around your partner or other women
Breaking the cycle of comparing yourself to his ex, people on tv or social media
If you're tired of feeling jealous, insecure, and constantly comparing yourself to others on social media or in real life, this episode is your roadmap to freedom. Learn how to transform jealousy into self-love and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Perfect for anyone with an anxious attachment style who wants to feel more secure, confident, and worthy in their relationships. Stop letting jealousy control your emotions and sabotage your happiness!
 
LIBRARY
 Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc)
 
📢 ON SALE 📢 
 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less (it's never about the text..)Mini Course:
STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner in 4 STEPS Mini Course:
 
FREE STUFF
🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships 
21 WAYS to download the 🙋🏼‍♀️21 WAYS to STOP Abandoning yourself 
The Worry-Free Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety
Self Esteem KIT to learn to be GOOD ENOUGH, lovable and worthy from within
 
 

27: How to Heal your 🖤 Anxious Attachment style (FAST) - Part 2

🖤 How to HEAL Your Anxious Attachment Style (PART 2) | From Anxious to Secure Attachment
You loved Part 1 SO much (our most downloaded episode ever!) and I know you've been waiting for this one...
In this episode, I'm sharing:
The ONE shift that stops the anxiety spiral ✨
Why it's so hard to stop depending on others (and what actually works)
How your brain can literally rewire for security
3 real habits that changed everything for me 🖤
Plus: The eye-opening moment in my tiny London apartment that made me realize why focusing on my partner was keeping me stuck
This one's for you if:
You're anxiously attached and over it
You can't feel okay unless they're okay
You want real change, not just band-aids
You're ready to choose yourself 🤍
Plus: My story about finally understanding my anxious attachment (and what changed everything)
If you're ready to stop feeling anxious and start feeling secure, this one's for you 🤍
Readyyy?
 
For YOU:
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00:00 How to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style (FAST) Part 200:27 How I healed my Anxious Attachment Style 5 Years Ago00:56 The One Focus Area for Shifting Your Attachment Style: From Them to You01:36 How long does it take to Heal Your Anxious Attachment Style?02:50 The One Focus Area for Shifting Your Attachment Style: From Them to You06:06 How to DETACH emotionally and WHY it's SO HARD08:53 Why Repetition and Emotion Are the Key to Shifting Your Attachment Style15:39 The One Focus Area for Shifting Your Attachment Style: From Them to You18:16 Building 3 Habits for Secure Attachment22:48 Thought habits22:50 Transforming Thoughts and Emotions24:36 Emotional Habit: Process Your Emotions ⚡26:37 Action Habit: Set Boundaries and Express Yourself 🌈29:25 Final Words

26: Why Your Partner seems 'Too Busy' and doesn’t make time for YOU (What do to)

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Why Your Partner SEEMS 'Too Busy' and doesn’t make time for you (WHAT do to) and you not feel like a priority? Been there "healed" that!
You're giving it your ALL, but your partner seems more interested in... well, everything else? 🤔
Their phone 📱, video games 🎮, friends 👥 - while you're left wondering why a simple coffee date feels impossible to plan? ☕
Based on YOUR messages and DMs this week (thank you for sharing! 🙏), I knew we needed to talk about this.
In today's Anxious to Secure PODCAST episode for everyone who wants to neal their anxious attachment style I'm sharing something that completely changed how I view "busy" partners (and honestly, it might surprise you). 🤯 we go deep into attachment theory, core wounds..not just about Anxious Attachment but also in understanding your Avoidants Partners style much deeper...
Because that pit in your stomach when they choose PlayStation over quality time? I've been there, and what I discovered changed everything. ✨
If you're tired of:
Feeling like an afterthought in their schedule ⏰
Getting the "boring" version while their friends get the fun side 😕
Watching them scroll on their phone while you crave connection 💔
...then what I'm about to share might be exactly what you need to hear. 🎯
This isn't about making them change - it's about understanding what's really going on (hint: it has nothing to do with your worth! ) and how to feel secure even when they need space. 🦋
Join me to discover the FARE framework that transformed my relationship from anxiety to security in just 6 months. ⭐
Because you deserve to feel like a priority, without the constant overthinking. 💫
Love, Jula Your Anxious to Secure Relationship Coach for ambitious Overthinkers.
 
 Attachment ✎ᝰ.Self-Study Vault 🫶🏻❤️‍🩹 (worksheets, guides, downloads, etc)
📢 ON SALE: 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
 
🎧💌📖 FREE COURSE: How to stop overthinking in Your relationships 
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