The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

59: the ONE thing you're doing WRONG if you have an anxious attachment (and what works better with the avoidant partner)

If you’re anxiously attached and feel like you’re RUINING every good relationship... this episode might just be your wake-up call 
🖤 Do you chase closeness when your partner pulls away?🖤 Do you try to FIX the disconnection… by doing MORE?🖤 Do you spiral in your head wondering “Did I say something wrong?”🖤 Are you exhausted from overgiving, overthinking, and over performing… and STILL feeling unsafe in love?
 
You're not crazy. You're not too much.But your nervous system thinks you’re in danger—and it’s running the show.
In this episode, I’m sharing:✣ the #1 MISTAKE most anxious attachers make (without even realizing it)✣ why “doing more” actually pushes love away✣ the invisible FIGHT MODE pattern that’s draining your nervous system✣ how to finally feel SAFE without chasing or fixing everything✣ 4 quick steps to get out of the spiral and back into your power and to create more connection with your avoidant attached partner
 
Here’s a story I’ve never shared like this before…
Back when I lived in London, I had this one tiny habit that changed everything…I stopped running for the bus.Like—I saw it coming… and I LET it go.
Why?Because my whole body was in panic mode 24/7.My brain thought every moment was urgent.So I was teaching my nervous system a new truth:✨ We’re not in danger.✨ We don’t have to rush.✨ We’re safe to slow down.
That’s how healing starts.Not just with knowing the patterns—but with retraining your body to feel safe in love 💭💋🖤
 
Listen to today’s episode of the anxious to secure podcast
if you're tired of feeling like you're “too much” or like you always have to work for love.
Let’s shift out of overgiving and into inner safety, one breath at a time ✨🖤
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Are you doing THIS wrong too?? UPS...01:23 THE BIG MISTAKE03:53 What happens in your body?05:25 The Cycle of Fight or Flight or Freeze06:54 How it impact ALL other areas of life09:45 The root cause10:18 Why your body thinks we are living in CAVES11:25 The HOW....17:19 Remember this18:33 Quick RESETS: Regulating Emotions and Building Safety
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

58: Anxious Attachment Q+A: How to Stop Overthinking and Ruining a Good Relationship - 4 Steps

Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety
✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached
 
Are you with someone GOOD…but you can’t stop overthinking, spiraling, or self-sabotaging?You’re not broken. You’re just operating from anxious attachment... and it’s exhausting.
In this video, I’ll walk you through 4 simple but powerful steps to stop overthinking, feel calmer in love, and actually enjoy a GOOD relationship (without pushing them away 💛)
 
🖤 How to break the reassurance loop🖤 What’s really behind your fears🖤 The shift from “Is it safe?” ➞ “I can handle it”🖤 Journal prompts + mindset hacks that work
 
🎙 Real talk. No fluff. No shame…Let's break the anxious patterns that keep you stuck…and build safety from the inside out.
 
00:00 Today's Q+A: Spiraling when I don't hear back even though she reassures me.01:35 Understanding what's happening with your Body when triggered02:52 Why this “waiting spiral” hits so hard...05:52 Why the Trigger is not about the PRESENT moment, about your partner08:26 MICRO-EXAMPLES of past roots10:56 Coaching Questions (to connect to YOUR story)12:43 What To Do Going Forward15:11 Why logic alone isn’t enough...16:13 The 4R METHOD Your New Action Plan17:14 ✶ 01 RELEASE the emotion22:19 Question you can ask yourself23:05 ✶ 02 REWIRE your beliefs25:00 ✶ 03 RECONNECT with yourself29:31 ✶ 04 REFLECT on your shadow31:11 MINI ACTION PLAN To create emotional safety35:21 How to Work with me or Free Resources
 
COURSES ON OFFER (beta round)
🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
OFFERS:
🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
 
🖤 Attachment LIBRARY (Free resources, Courses, 1:1 Support)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 

57: How to soothe your ANXIETY with 💛✨the 3 Course DOPAMINE Menu (30+ ideas))

Here are Dopamine Menu Ideas That ACTUALLY Work For Anxious Attachment ✨💛
Your dopamine menu is EVERYTHING if you have an anxious attachment style 
Why?Because it helps you stop chasing those quick emotional hits from your partner. You’ll stop needing constant texting, reassurance, or obsessing over every little thing 💭📱
Even that urge to stalk your ex online? 👀✨ It starts to fade.
In this episode of Anxious to Secure, Jula breaks down how to build your OWN ✨slow dopamine menu✨ to help you feel more SECURE from the inside out 🛟💛
If you’ve ever felt glued to your phone waiting for a reply...Or replayed a convo on a loop in your head...This episode is for YOU 🖤
So what’s a dopamine menu anyway?You’ve probably seen the trend on IG or TikTok — usually it’s about boosting energy or focus 💡💃
But here’s what no one is talking about Dopamine menus can actually help soothe your nervous system 💛✨and shift anxious attachment patterns for GOOD 
This episode dives into:✨ the science of dopamine✨ how it fuels those emotional rollercoasters✨ how to REWIRE your brain with grounding, secure habits
You’ll learn how to swap fast dopamine spikes (like texting, scrolling, or binging) for small, SAFE, meaningful moments that actually calm your system 🧘🏼‍♀️📓
You’ll walk away with a 3-part dopamine menu you can start using TODAY 
From: -tiny starter habits that gently wake up your brain -to main meals that boost your dopamine through connection + creativity -to dessert-style rewards that help you feel satisfied + SAFE 💛✨
This isn’t just a cute Pinterest trend —This is about retraining your brain to stop chasing CHAOS ✖️and start choosing ✨CALM, CLARITY + CONNECTION✨
Perfect for anyone who:✶ feels like silence from a partner sends them into a spiral ⛈✶ constantly checks messages, stalks profiles, or replays convos 📱✶ uses food, social, or distractions to numb the anxiety 🍫✶ wants to feel EMOTIONALLY SAFE + in control again 
Let’s rewrite the way your brain experiences LOVE, connection, and calm One tiny dopamine habit at a time 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 What is the Dopamine Menu trend?
02:01 QUICK dopamine - aka fast and dirty dopamine
05:01 Slow dopamine - aka clean, real dopamine
08:09 Why dopamine MATTERS for anxious attachment
09:33 Why YOU need a dopamine menu for anxious attachment - The REAL tiny moments
12:05 Your 3 Course Anxious Attachment Dopamine Menu
14:20 Your Dopamine Starter Menu
18:26 MAIN Dopamine Course Menu
24:00 Your Dessert Dopamine Menu
27:37 Remember
 
 
🖤 Attachment LIBRARY: FREE Attachment LIBRARY https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 1:1 Support + Courses: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

56. (15 STEPS) How to Fix an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - the pyramid method

Are you stuck on the anxious‑avoidant relationship rollercoaster?
Feeling like every conversation ends in confusion, distance, or chasing?
In this episode of the Anxious to Secure podcast, you'll learn how to fix an Anxious‑Avoidant Relationship in 15 Steps.
I’m breaking down a powerful 15‑step pyramid framework from the five BIGGEST mistakes that keep you stuck, all the way up to the ONE core change that transforms your connection. 
 
Here’s what I’m walking you through in this episode:
📍 A quick story of me and my avoidant partner in a tiny London flat… both of us triggered, stuck in our patterns ... and what finally helped things shift.
📍 The 5 emotional blocks that keep you stuck at the bottom... like believing this is just who I am or pretending you don’t care (when you definitely do).
📍 The 4 things that feel like healing but kinda... aren’t... like trying to be perfect, holding it all in, rehearsing the “right” words, or testing if they care.
📍 The 3 tools that help, but don’t fully move the needle... like leaning on secure friends, calming your nervous system, or setting boundaries (but still feeling anxious inside).
📍 The 2 shifts that actually change your attachment... learning to trust yourself and rewiring those sneaky beliefs like I have to be chill or I’ll be too much.
📍 And the ONE thing at the top that changes everything... stepping into your secure self (not just acting it, actually becoming it).
 
This episode is perfect for anxious‑avoidant partners ready to:
Stop overthinking, people‑pleasing, chasing
Rewire your nervous system and your beliefs
Build emotional self‑trust and real boundaries
Finally move from anxious attachment to secure love 
 Expect curiosity‑sparking questions, a touch of real‑life storytelling, and actionable steps you can start using today.
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
♥️  YOUTUBE:
 (4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLi57Sgd3nE&t=1567s
 
🚩Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? 🚩How do you know if an Avoidant likes You
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XhIX4kMBYrU&t=1202s&list=PLkaamihHgLaG0GI37seXdVADSfx8hv-La
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 

55: You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship...You want THIS:

You don’t actually want a relationship.Not really. Not in the way you think.
You don’t want someone just to text you good morning…or cuddle you at night…or talk about the future 🛏📱💍
You think that’s the dream.But underneath all of it?You’re chasing a very different outcome - one you don’t always realize.
 
You want to finally feel SAFE.You want to finally feel CHOSEN - like you’re ENOUGH.You want to stop second-guessing yourself every time they pull away.You want to stop living on edge... waiting for the other shoe to drop.You want to feel like YOU make sense - like you're not "too much" or "too needy."
 
Because what you're really craving is:emotional regulationinternal validationa steady nervous systema love that doesn’t feel like a high-stakes performancea break from feeling like you always have to earn love
Your anxious attachment isn’t just looking for a partner.It’s looking for RELIEF.It’s looking for SAFETY.It’s looking for HOME.
And if you're thinking, "Wait... that’s me"Don’t just take my word for it 🔍
 
Listen now to understand what you’re TRULY looking for...and most importantly, get the step-by-step action plan to finally give it to yourself 🗝️
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship... You want THIS:02:30 The Real Chase - You’re After a Feeling04:35 Why It’s Never Enough (Until You Give It to Yourself)05:46 Why you treat your partner as your Parent09:17 THE SOLUTION: What Are You REALLY Trying to Get From Your Partner?12:16 How to Work with me14:46 PART 02: Your Action Plan15:41 How to feel worthy16:59 How to feel Chosen19:55 How to feel emotionally safe21:25 How to feel more connected23:48 How to feel reassured24:14 Extend This Love Beyond Yourself26:48 REMEMBER THIS...
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
♥️  YOUTUBE:
 (4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLi57Sgd3nE&t=1567s

54: Listen BEFORE you BREAK UP with Your Avoidant Partner - 5 Reasons You Can’t Find a Secure Partner

🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
"Why can't I find a secure partner?"
Let me share with you 5 reasons why...
 
Ever wondered why the “safe” ones feel boring... or why you keep falling for hot/cold dynamics that leave you spiralling?
You're not broken. You're just wired to seek love that feels familiar - not safe.
Hi, I'm Jula — The Anxious to Secure Coach 🖤
 
I used to think if I just broke up with my avoidant partner... everything would magically fall into place. I’d meet someone secure, calm, available — and finally feel at peace.
But when I stumbled into attachment theory and realized I was anxiously attached, I had a BIG wake-up call.
It wasn’t just about him.It was about what my nervous system was calling “love.”
So in this episode, I’m breaking down the REAL reason why you can’t just “pick” a secure person and suddenly become secure yourself.
 
CURIOUS? LISTEN IN IF:➞ You’ve been in therapy and still date emotionally unavailable people➞ You say you want healthy love, but feel bored when you get it➞ You’re stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop and feel like you're the problem➞ Or you’re THIS close to leaving your avoidant partner… and wondering if the grass is greener
THIS EPISODE = A WAKE-UP CALL + A PLAN 🖤
 
We’re diving into the 5 subconscious reasons your body says “YES” to the wrong type of love — and then in Part 2, I’ll walk you through the exact steps to rewire your system so secure love starts to feel safe AND sexy again ✨
 
 
🎧 CHAPTERS:
00:00 LISTEN BEFORE you BREAK UP with Your Avoidant02:05 5 Reasons You Can’t Find a Secure Partner02:36 1. You don’t “choose” your partner... your subconscious & nervous system does03:57 2. You're still ANXIOUSLY attached - so your body doesn't even recognize SECURE as love yet05:27 3. Anxious + Avoidant is one of the most COMMON but most confusing dynamics08:12 4. You haven’t updated your COMFORT ZONE - so your “type” is actually your trauma10:17 5. Even if you find a secure partner… it won’t “fix” the anxious part of you11:32 What can happen to the Secure Partner SHOULD you be in a relationship with them... (NOT what you think)12:50 PART 0213:01 TEXT + TALK: Coaching in your Pocket15:32 Heal your Anxious Attachment: 4 | 8 Month Coaching Program16:34 The 90min Breakthrough Call17:26 YOUR ACTION PLAN: How to Create a NEW Comfort Zone That Feels Safe17:51 1. ✣ RELEASE YOUR EMOTIONS21:31 2. ✣ REWIRE YOUR BELIEFS26:30 3. ✣ RECONNECT WITH YOUR NEEDS32:32 4. ✣ PRACTICE CALM IN SMALL DOSES35:16 Remember...
 
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
♥️  YOUTUBE:
 (4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLi57Sgd3nE&t=1567s
 

53: (10 Hidden) Signs of Anxious Attachment at WORK 👩🏻‍💻(and How to Be More Secure at Work)

Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells at work — even when no one’s mad at you? 😰Constantly reading between the lines of Slack messages?Replaying convos in your head for hours?Avoiding conflict, hiding your voice, and lowkey doubting yourself even though you're SMART as hell?
🖤 You might be experiencing anxious attachment at work.
In this juicy episode, we're diving deep into something not enough people are talking about 👀:
 
How anxious attachment shows up outside of romantic relationshipsThe emotional toll of anxious attachment in the workplaceWhy high-achieving women (and men) secretly feel unsafe at work... and how to change that
 
If you’ve ever wondered:
💭 “Why does one bit of feedback make me spiral?”💭 “Why do I hide my ideas in meetings?”💭 “Why do I keep shrinking to make everyone else comfortable?”
…this episode is your permission slip to get curious — instead of critical.
 
I’ll share real signs, deep reflections, and my own stories of how I used to overwork, overthink, and overperform from an anxious place...
👩🏼‍💻 Even though I looked “put together” on the outside.
 
You’ll walk away with tools to:✦ Start seeing feedback as feedback — not rejection✦ Speak up without over-rehearsing every sentence✦ Handle awkward convos and kitchen small talk with more ease✦ Stop people-pleasing your coworkers to feel "safe"✦ Get out of your head and back into your POWER at work 🖤
If you’ve got the ambition and the heart — but still feel like you’re constantly proving yourself?
 
✨ This is the episode is for you:
 
10 Hidden Signs of Anxious Attachment at Work 👩🏻‍💻 (and How to Be More Secure Without Overthinking Every Little Thing)
 
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro: The IMPACT of your anxious attachment at work02:25 Life BEFORE I healed my anxious attachment04:50 10 Hidden Signs of Anxious Attachment at Work05:20 01. Overanalysing faces07:37 02. Avoiding the kitchen10:40 03. Hating after-work events13:32 04. Overthinking feedback16:31 GO DEEPER: Stop Overthinking Today18:11 05. Avoiding conflict19:52 06. Hiding ideas21:14 07. Pleasing the boss23:04 08. Gossip for closeness25:40 09. Staying small28:05 10. Hiding from visibility30:52 Final pep talk
 
 
⭑ Attachment Library:
25+ resources 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz 
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
☁️ The Worry-Free ☁️ Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/worryfree
 
GO DEEPER:
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY – How to STOP Obsessing Over Their Text in 21 Days or Less 🖤
If your peace DISAPPEARS the second they don’t reply, or you read too much into their "thumbs up" reply—your partner's communication is NOT the problem. Your anxious brain is.
You DON’T need another text. You need this: Tools to break your obsession with them.
➤➤➤ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with Your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
🖤 *on beta = sale * (= additional free get 1:1 email support)
If you're constantly worried about the future INSTEAD of enjoying today, then what's the point of the relationship? You’re not building love; your anxious brain is obsessed with chasing fear.
➤➤➤ Ready to live in the present?
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
 
Remember:
Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 

52: Avoidants DON'T Need Space... Here's What They ACTUALLY Need (This Changes Your Relationship)

You’ve been told:“Just give them space”...
But that’s NOT the whole story ✶And if you’re anxiously attached...You’ve probably felt like giving space only makes it worse 😮‍💨
Hi, I’m Jula — anxious attachment coach + podcast host 🖤I’ve been where you are... spiraling after “I need time” textsAnd what I’ve learned? It’s not about giving more space...It’s about giving something else entirely 🧠
 
 In this episode, I’ll show you:...Why “space” isn’t enough...What avoidants are actually craving (but don’t say out loud)...And how to stop chasing — without abandoning yourself
If you’ve ever felt like they pull away just when you get close...You NEED this conversation 
✨ Press play — what you’ll hear might flip your whole dynamic in the best way..
 
COURSES ON OFFER (beta round)
🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
OFFERS:
🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
 
FREE:
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro01:16 The Myth You've Been Sold04:17 What Emotional Freedom Actually Looks Like08:49 Where This Really Comes From11:41 What You Can Do Instead - The Immediate Response19:37 Identifying Root Causes of Anxiety: The Why-Why-Why Exercise23:31 Make a decision25:38 Challenge and Reframe Your Core Belief27:37 How to REFRAME your Beliefs29:01 Creating Emotional Freedom Together - Practical Actions30:58 Building Your Capacity Gradually33:59 Quick Summary
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
 

51: Psychology Based Manifestation Guide⚡How to Manifest FAST (it's not about the method) Part 2

MYTH: Manifestation is about your vision board, your scripting journal, or how many times you say your affirmation...
👉 But here's the REAL tea:It’s not about the method - it’s about the moment.It’s about the state your body and brain are in when you're calling in what you want 🧠💭It’s about your frequency aka your energy.Your nervous system is either saying “I’m safe to receive this” or “This is a threat”...And it’s happening before your mind even catches up.
🖤 So let me tell you a little story...
I used to journal like crazy.I’d write: "I want a healthy, secure relationship."But then... my partner would pull away just a little — maybe a slow text back or just not that affectionate …And suddenly, BOOM 💥⛈️I’m triggered.I’m spiraling.I’m checking their tone, rereading their messages, wondering if I did something wrong.(You know the drill.)
And I’d think...“If I REALLY believed I was worthy of love, why does this feel like I’m being abandoned all over again?”
That’s when it hit me:The part of me trying to manifest was in ✨panic mode✨.So even if my words said “I’m ready for love”...My BODY was like “🚨LOVE IS UNSAFE!!”The frequency was off.I was still manifesting... but from fear, not safety.
This episode is for you if:✶ You’re trying to “do the work” but still get triggered by emotional distance✶ You’re craving secure love, but keep feeling rejected over little things✶ You want to understand why your body reacts so BIG to someone pulling away✶ You’re ready to shift from spiraling into grounding 🧠🖤✶ You want to stop “manifesting from a wound” and start calling love in from calm
You're not crazy. You're not too much.You're just triggered.And your nervous system has something to say 
Let’s get into it 🤍🎙
 
COURSES ON OFFER (beta round)
🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
OFFERS:
🖤📱 ON SALE: "Stop Obsessing Over Texts in 21 Days or Less" 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
 
FREE:
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro: How to manifest even if you don’t believe in it00:58 01: The Identity Shift That Changes Everything (Psychology + Manifestation)07:39 02. The SECRET to Manifesting FAST (Even in Your Sleep)11:07 Your Morning & Night Routine for FASTER Manifestation16:46 03. Your Complete Manifestation Action Plan (6-Step Formula)
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

50: Psychology Based Manifestation Guide:🔮How to *actually* MANIFEST healthy, secure LOVE & stop attracting emotionally unavailable partner

Why You Keep Attracting the SAME Type of Guy (It's Not What You Think) I used to roll my eyes at manifestation until I discovered the neuroscience behind it.
Turns out, you're already manifesting every single day - even when you don't believe in it. And if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who pull away the second you get close, there's a scientific reason why.
That's when I learned how to actually manifest healthy love, secure love - like emotionally available guys. Did you know?
Your brain literally can't tell the difference between what's real and what's imagined. So when you visualise being rejected over and over again, your nervous system thinks it's actually happening.
You're manifesting these painful moments through repetition - NOT by choice, but because your brain is wired to recreate what feels familiar from childhood, not what feels good. This isn't about vision boards or positive thinking. It's about understanding how your thoughts create your emotions, your emotions drive your actions, and your actions create your results.
I call it the SPEAK model, and it's rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy. In this episode, I break down:
✓ What manifestation actually is (spoiler: it's mental conditioning, not magic)
✓ Why your brain filters reality to match your beliefs
✓ How to identify the core beliefs keeping you stuck ✓ Why changing your environment is crucial for manifesting healthy love
✓ The difference between fake TikTok advice and science-based manifestation If you're tired of attracting the same patterns (the avoidant attached partner or an emotionally unavailable guy) and ready to understand the real psychology behind manifestation, this episode will change everything.
Ready to stop the toxic cycle of attracting wrong relationships and avoidant partners?
Change starts with understanding the psychology behind your patterns to attract healthy love and green flags. Resources mentioned:
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
Part 2: Identity Shifts & My Manifestation Formula (coming end of this week!)
♥️ Anxious to Secure PLAYLIST https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&si=MZVdY40W00Rgqcht
🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
COURSE:
🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
STUDY VAULT:
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 How to Actually MANIFEST Healthy Love + Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People01:27 The REAL Science Behind Manifestation02:41 The promise for YOU03:09 What is Manifestation (Really)?05:16 How Your Fear of Losing Them Becomes the Reality You Live09:13 You're ALWAYS Manifesting – Whether You Mean To Or Not11:56 How to train your brain to SPOT what you WANT - not what you fear14:02 Why your comfort zone os your WORST ENEMY16:54 How our environment manifest for us20:19 The Neuroscience of Emotions and Manifestation22:30 Why your environment controls MORE than you think26:10 Environment Audit: These Questions will change your love life28:38 Why your Actions don't match your Desires31:02 Why vision boards don't work32:49 Baby Steps that signal you're ready for secure love
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
 
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