The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

39: 🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How do you know if an Avoidant likes You?

🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How to Know If an Avoidant Likes You | Anxious Attachment Relationship Advice
Is your partner emotionally distant... or just not that into you? 😳If you're anxiously attached, this question can spiral you FAST.
💭 “Are they avoidant and scared of intimacy—or are they just not interested?”
In this episode, I'm breaking down the 4 CLEAR SIGNS so you can finally stop second-guessing:
✨ How avoidants show love—even if it's NOT in your love language✨ What happens when you stop chasing (spoiler: this is BIG)✨ How they respond to your needs vs. ignore them completely✨ Whether they show growth over time—or stay stuck
🎯 By the end, you'll know if your partner is avoidant attached or just emotionally unavailable.
💡 Perfect for anyone with relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, or feeling confused by hot & cold behavior in love.
 
▶️ LISTEN if you’ve ever thought:
“They say they need space… but do they even want me?”
“I stopped overgiving, and now they’ve vanished.”
“They used to try—now it feels like I’m the only one showing up.”
 
🖤 BONUS: I share what changed everything in my relationship with my avoidant partner—and the mindset that helped me go from spiraling to SECURE.
👇 Ready to stop the spiral and get clarity? 
 
 
🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED🎧 Text Anxiety Mini Course (to STOP OBSESSING over text in 21 days or less):
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
🧠 Stop Overthinking Your Relationship (4-Step Course):
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
⭑ Attachment Library: 25 plus resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
 
✨ 1:1 SUPPORT ✨ 🖤 Ready to become more SECURE?
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
📖 CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment Styles00:47 My promise for you...01:23 Avoidant Attachment doesn't mean they don't care about YOU02:31 7 Signs to tell if they are Avoidant Attached or just not into you02:47 01 Love Language: Do They Show Care At All?04:40 02 What Happens When You Stop Chasing?07:38 03 How Do They Respond to Your Needs?11:50 How to Stop Overthinking your Relationship with Your Avoidant Partner in 4 Steps14:01 04 Do They Make Progress Over Time?16:25 05 What Happens When YOU Become Secure?17:49 06 How Do They Show Effort?19:19 07 How Do They Handle Future Conversations?21:33 Avoidant or Not Interested - or the SAME?
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

38: 5 ways to 👩🏻‍🍼 STOP MOTHERING Your MAN: Your Anxious Attachment kills attraction

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🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
Stop Mothering Your Man:
How Anxious Attachment Kills Attraction & How to Break Free
In this episode, we dive deep into the destructive cycle of mothering your partner and how this pattern, often triggered by anxious attachment, can silently destroy your relationship.
Whether you're a woman "mothering" your man, a man "fathering" your woman, or in a relationship with a non-binary partner, this episode will help you recognize the signs, understand the impact, and learn actionable steps to break free from this toxic dynamic.
Are you tired of feeling like you're running the show in your relationship?If you're constantly managing your partner's schedule, checking in on him, or worrying about his every move, it might be time to reassess your behavior. For those of us with anxious attachment styles, it's easy to fall into the trap of mothering our partners without even realizing it. But the truth is, this type of over-parenting can have serious consequences, including destroying the emotional connection and attraction in your relationship.
In this episode, I break down the hidden dangers of mothering your man and explain why this behavior doesn't just affect women but can occur in all relationships, no matter the gender. By understanding the signs and the neuroscience behind anxious attachment, you can take the first step toward healing and restoring the attraction in your relationship.
Are you ready to stop mothering and start nurturing?This episode will teach you the difference between nurturing your partner with love and support versus controlling and over-managing every aspect of his life. By breaking the mothering cycle, you’ll rediscover the attraction and emotional intimacy you both deserve.
Bonus Tool: Neuroscience-Based Method to Stop Parenting Your PartnerStay tuned until the end, where I'll share a powerful, neuroscience-based tool to help you stop over-parenting your partner and reclaim the secure attachment you crave.
If you're ready to change your relationship for the better, press play now and start your journey from anxious to secure.
 
 
🎁 FREE RESOURCES: ⭑ Attachment Library: 25+ resources
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
⭑ Relationship Anxiety Flowchart
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
 
📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO.
(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
 
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐
Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing to heal your Anxious Attachment in 2025.
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
🖤 Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good? 🖤
Book A free call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

37: How to feel 🤍 CONNECTED with your Avoidant Partner (Without Feeling Clingy) in Your Anxious Avoidant Relationship

🤍 ON SALE: STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
🔄 Feel like the more you reach for connection, the more your partner pulls away? Girl, same! I've been there too! In this How to Connect with Your Avoidant Partner - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle guide, I'm sharing everything that worked for me! I'm spilling ALL
the tea on why you feel so "needy" sometimes (spoiler: you're not!) and how to break free from that exhausting push-pull dance that's keeping you stuck.
In this episode, I'm sharing: Why you crave connection SO much more than some people (it's not your fault!)
The HUGE mistakes I made that pushed my partner further away 3 super simple ways to feel connected without coming across as clingy Plus the game-changing skill nobody talks about (this one changed EVERYTHING for me!)
This is the KEY to How to Connect with Your Avoidant Partner - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle!
This is Part 2 of my relationship needs series! In Part 1, we already debunked the myth that you're "too needy" and learned how to identify healthy vs unhealthy needs.
 
NEEDS YOUTUBE PLAYLIST:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE
 
🤍 ON SALE Attachment 101 Master Guide only 7 EURO. (Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
🤍 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🤍GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
🤍 PRIVATE COACHING Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good?
Book A Free Call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
🤍 FREE 3 min QUIZ: 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

36: 10 Micro Habits to DETACH from YOUR need for APPROVAL to stop the endless chase of validation

Are you tired of constantly seeking approval and validation from your partner?
Yes?? Then THIS episode is for you.
10 powerful micro habits that help you detach from your need for approval and transform your anxious attachment into secure confidence.
Learn practical ways to detach yourself from someone without compromising your relationship.
These simple two-minute practices will help you stop seeking external validation and reclaim your self-worth. If you're caught in the cycle of needing approval and validation from an avoidant partner, these micro habits will teach you how to master detachment while staying connected.
Stop the chasing, heal your self-doubt, and discover how to let go of the insecurity that keeps you seeking validation.
Perfect for anyone in an anxious-avoidant relationship who wants to break free from male validation or any external validation that's draining your energy and peace. 
 
 
📢 ON SALE 📢
 
🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO (👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
➡️ If your relationship feels like an emotional rollercoaster, you’re not building love—you’re surviving it. Secure partners don’t guess where they stand. Get the guide and break the cycle.
➤➤➤ GRAB IT NOW (only €7)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
 
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY – How to STOP Obsessing Over Their Text in 21 Days or Less 🖤
➡️ If your peace DISAPPEARS the second they don’t reply, or you read too much into their "thumbs up" reply—your partner's communication is NOT the problem. Your anxious brain is.
You DON’T need another text. You need this: Tools to break your obsession with them.
➤➤➤ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with Your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
🖤 *on beta = sale * (= additional free get 1:1 email support)
➡️ If you're constantly worried about the future INSTEAD of enjoying today, then what's the point of the relationship? You’re not building love; your anxious brain is obsessed with chasing fear.
➤➤➤ Ready to live in the present?
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐
Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
 
🎁 FREE RESOURCES:
⭑ Attachment Library:
25+ resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
⭑ Relationship Anxiety Flowchart
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good?
 
☁️ The Worry-Free ☁️ Flow-Chart for Relationship Anxiety
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/worryfree
 
🖤 Book A free Call to check if we are a good match for my 1:1 programs to heal your anxious attachment:
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These micro habits will help you detach from your need for approval while still maintaining healthy connections.
Stop seeking external validation and start trusting yourself!
Learn effective ways to detach from unhealthy patterns without disconnecting from relationships.
 
 
CHAPTERS
00:00 Understanding the Need for Approval from your (Avoidant Partner) or other People in your life00:23 Why Your Craving for Validation Isn’t About Happiness—It’s About Survival02:37 What Happens When You DO NOT Detach from Needing VALIDATION06:05 My promise for you...06:27 10 Micro Habits to Detach from YOUR NEED for approval from your partner06:38 Micro Habit #01 Reassurance Redirection07:57 Micro Habit #02 The 2-Minute Validation Delay10:04 Micro Habit #03 "If Not Now, Then Another Time"12:44 Micro Habit #04 The "Validation Hunger" Energy Audit14:27 Micro Habit #05 Mirror Pep Talk20:53 Micro Habit #06 Shift from "Do They Approve?" to "Do I Approve?"23:17 Mirco Habit #07 Don't Add Meaning25:33 Micro Habit #08 The Energy Bubble27:40 Micro Habit #09 The Validation Vault30:13 Micro Habit: #10 the 30Sec Check In31:24 BONUS Micro Habit: We're All on Level Ground32:55 The Journey of Self-Validation and Healing
 
Remember:
Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 

35: (7 Ways) How to make HIM realise your WORTH + VALUE YOU again

👩🏻‍💻📚 FREE Attachment Library:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
💖 Are you feeling undervalued in your relationship?
Discover 7 powerful ways to make him see your WORTH again (without manipulation)!
This episode reveals why proving yourself never works and what actually does. 🔥
Are you...
Constantly going above and beyond for his attention and approval?
Feeling invisible despite all the love and care you give?
Wondering "Am I enough for my partner?"
Trying to be the perfect partner but losing yourself in the process?
Checking your phone every 5 minutes to see if he texted back?
Canceling your plans just to be available for him?
BUT... the truth is your worth isn't tied to how much you give! Learn how setting boundaries, prioritizing yourself, and building self-confidence can transform your relationship from the inside out.
Perfect for anxious attachers ready to heal and attract the respect you deserve!
 
 
 
📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐
Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
✅ FREE QUIZZES: ✅
Find out YOUR Attachment Style:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
⭑ Relationship Anxiety Flowchart
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
💌181 Self-Love Ideas-Detach & Thrive
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/selfloveideas
20 MUST-HAVE 🏰 Boundary ✅ CHECKLIST for Anxious Attachers
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/boundary
 
📢 ON SALE 📢 🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO.
(👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
 
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less 
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
 
🖤 Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good? 🖤
Book A free call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
 
📖 CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Your Worth in Relationships02:46 Why Proving Your Worth NEVER Works03:18 REASON 0104:06 REASON 0204:39 REASON 0305:20 REASON 0406:02 The Universal Laws Explain Why This Never Works06:10 REASON 0106:35 REASON 0206:56 REASON 0309:13 You want them to "STEP IT UP", while they want you to "CALM DOWN"10:34 Remember THIS about your WORTH13:19 What happens when you realise YOUR worth and STOP the chase?14:12 7 Ways to Make Him Realise Your Worth + Value You Again14:26 STEP 01. Set Boundaries from Self-Respect, Not Punishment 🛑17:08 STEP 02. Stop Focusing on Him and Prioritize Yourself 👑19:38 STEP 03. Communicate Clearly and Calmly...Not Impulsively 💬22:20 STEP 04. Take Care of Yourself 💆‍♀️28:29 STEP 05. Realize Your Worth is Unshakable 💎30:05 STEP 06. Build Your Own Life, Be OBSESSED With It + Fill Your Cup 🏆32:08 STEP 07. Treat Yourself Like You're the Prize 👑34:09 NEVER Forget this... About YOUR Worth and Value in Relationships
 

34: How to Stop ABANDONING Yourself in a Relationship in 4 Steps (& Heal Your Anxious Attachment)

📢 ON SALE 📢
🖤 Attachment 101 Master Guide 🖤 only 7 EURO. (👀 Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
🖤 TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
🖤 STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself in Relationships & Heal Your Anxious Attachment in 4 Steps
 
Do you keep losing yourself in relationships? Are you constantly silencing your needs for approval and battling abandonment issues? This powerful episode reveals how to stop abandoning yourself in a relationship and finally heal your anxious attachment style!
Discover the exact process to overcome abandonment fears and fix your abandonment wound for good. If you're struggling with self-abandoning behaviors or wondering how to meet your needs in a relationship, this episode gives you the complete roadmap to healing your abandonment wound and stopping the cycle of abandonment issues.
I'll share the life-changing inner child work and reparenting techniques that helped me stop losing yourself in relationships. Learn how to detach from a guy in a healthy way while setting boundaries that protect you from self abandoning again. This episode combines practical strategies for how to stop abandonment issues with deep healing techniques for your anxious attachment style.
 
🔑 What You'll Learn in this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast:
The 5 BIGGEST mistakes keeping you stuck in your abandonment wound
7 clear signs you're abandoning yourself in relationships
Why your nervous system responds to minor relationship shifts as life-threatening abandonment
The powerful 4R Method to heal anxious attachment: Release, Rewire, Reconnect, Reflect
How to meet your own emotional needs instead of desperately seeking external validation
 
FREE RESOURCES:
📚 FREE Attachment Library:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🔄 RELATIONSHIP NEEDS SERIES: Coming Soon in Part 4
Watch Now Part 2 NOW (Youtube)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g3_8ew8Q4wU&list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE&index=1&t=11s
(identify your top 2 UNMET needs, to avoid self-sabotage in your relationship)
 
📘 GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! 🔐 Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
✅ FREE QUIZZES: ✅
Find out YOUR Attachment Style:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
✅ Find your TOP 2 UNMET Relationship NEEDS:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
 
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 Understanding Self-Abandonment in Relationships
01:33 The 5 BIGGEST Mistakes Keeping You Stuck in Your Abandonment Wound 06:23 Are YOU Abandoning Yourself? 7 Signs
08:58 The REAL Reason WHY You Feel You HAVE to Abandon Yourself
12:36 Control, Cling, Escape: How Does Your Nervous System Protect You?
17:40 How to STOP Worrying About Your Partner Leaving You FOR GOOD 19:19 The ROOT of YOUR Abandonment Fear (In Your Upbringing)
21:26 4 Steps to HEAL Abandonment Wounds: Release, Rewire, Reconnect, Reflect
33:16 The POWERFUL Mindset Shift You HAVE to Know to HEAL
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

33: Identifying Your 2 Unmet Needs: The Secret to Stop Self-Sabotage (PART 02)

FREE Discover YOUR top 2 UNMET Relationship Needs (to stop sabotage)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
 
Discover Why You're Secretly Sabotaging Your Relationships
Are you always in your head about your relationship? Constantly checking their texts or feeling anxious when they don't reply right away? You're not alone!
This episode reveals how your unmet relationship needs are secretly causing your relationship anxiety and self-sabotage. You'll discover why you might be overthinking texts, feeling disconnected, or constantly seeking reassurance from your partner. I'll guide you through identifying your top 2-3 core needs using Tony Robbins' framework and show you exactly which needs are most common for anxious attachers.
By the end, you'll understand how childhood wounds created your current relationship patterns and why you might be unconsciously outsourcing your needs to your partner. Plus, you'll learn practical ways to fulfill these needs yourself instead of falling into the trap of neediness, overgiving, or relationship anxiety. No more running on autopilot - it's time to take control of your relationship needs and stop the self-sabotage cycle for good!
 
NEEDS YOUTUBE PLAYLIST:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE
 
ON SALE Attachment 101 Master Guide only 7 EURO.
(Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
PRIVATE COACHING
Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good?
Book A free Call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
FREE 3 min QUIZ: 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
 
🎧 WHAT WE'RE COVERING:
00:00 Understanding Unmet Needs in Relationships02:01 Signs You're Outsourcing Your Needs to Your Partner03:43 How Childhood Wounds Create Unmet Needs in Adulthood05:59 The 6 Core Needs (Discover YOURS)07:51 CORE NEED 01: Certainty08:51 CORE NEED 02: Variety10:11 CORE NEED 03: Significance11:10 CORE NEED 04: Connection + Love12:01 CORE NEED 05: Growth14:26 CORE NEED 06: Contribution15:26 The Top 3 Unmet Core Needs for an Anxious Attachment Style18:46 How Unmet Needs Drive Self-Sabotage20:08 If Your Biggest Need is CERTAINTY...22:44 If Your Biggest Need is CONNECTION...23:39 If Your Biggest Need is SIGNIFICANCE...25:52 How to Fulfil your needs26:44 Your SHORT CUT to identify YOUR top 2 UNMET core needs27:56 Quick Summary of your UNMET core Needs
This is Part 2 of my relationship needs series! In Part 1, we already debunked the myth that you're "too needy" and learned how to identify healthy vs unhealthy needs.
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
#relationshipneeds #unmetneeds #attachmentstyle #anxiousattachment #selfsabotage #relationshipanxiety #emotionalneeds #childhoodwounds

32: Am I too needy? Healthy Needs vs. 🚩Unhealthy Needs: What's the Difference? (PART 01)

FREE: Find your Core Unmet Relationship needs: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
Attachment Library: 25+ resources
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
HEALTHY VS UNHEALTHY NEEDS IN A RELATIONSHIP:
Am I Too Needy? What's the Difference?
Ever wondered "am I too needy in my relationship" or "am I asking for too much"? In this episode, I break down the EXACT difference between Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship so you can stop questioning yourself and start feeling secure!
Part 1 of my "Meet Your Relationship Needs" series where I help you transform your relationship with needs. Watch all 8 parts in the playlist below!
Am I too needy in my relationship? This comprehensive guide on Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship is exactly what you've been searching for to understand the difference between reasonable vs unreasonable relationship needs.
What You'll Learn:
Why having needs is NOT needy (it just makes you human!)
The complete guide to Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship
How to identify if your needs are reasonable vs unreasonable relationship needs
7 powerful journaling prompts to check if your needs come from security or fear
If you've been told you're "too sensitive" or you've pushed someone away because of anxious attachment, this video will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface.
Healthy Needs vs. Unhealthy Needs: The Key Differences Learn to distinguish between core needs that support emotional safety and fear-based demands that create anxious-avoidant traps. Discover how unmet needs in relationships create unrealistic expectations that damage connection.
This episode is perfect for anyone struggling with anxious attachment who wants to break free from the anxious-avoidant relationship cycle!
NEEDS YOUTUBE PLAYLIST:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaFfdgyQop04JLSaW9_onIVE
Coming Up in Part 2 (don't miss out on it) Discover your 3 unmet needs secretly driving your relationship behaviors. This is where everything starts to click for anxious attachers!
 
ON SALE Attachment 101 Master Guide only 7 EURO.
(Anxious spin to Secure within)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/101
TEXT ANXIETY - How to STOP obsessing over their text in 21 days or less
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
 
STOP OVERTHINKING Your Relationship with your AVOIDANT Partner (4 Steps)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
 
GRAB MY ANXIOUS TO SECURE BLUEPRINT COURSE! Get on the waitlist for exclusive early-bird pricing!
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/blueprint
 
PRIVATE COACHING
Ready to Heal Your Anxious Attachment to detach for good?
Book A free Call to check if we are a good match:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching
 
FREE 3 min QUIZ: 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

31: 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST

🔓 4 STEPS: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST | Stop the obsession & reclaim your power 🔓
Discover how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST through these proven 4 steps. If you're constantly obsessing over someone, checking their social media, and feeling anxious when they don't respond, this episode is for YOU.
I'm sharing guaranteed ways to emotionally detach that have transformed my life and my clients' relationships. These guaranteed ways to emotionally detach will help you break free from attachment without losing your ability to love. When you learn how to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you'll finally escape the endless cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and emotional dependency.
In this deeply personal episode, I share my 30-year journey from anxious attachment to emotional freedom, with relationship advice for women and relationship advice for men seeking to heal. These 4 powerful steps will help you stop obsessing over him/her and start reclaiming your own life.
The truth? When you DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST, you actually become more attractive! I'll show you exactly how to emotionally detach without shutting down your heart.
 
🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:
8 hidden reasons why you can't let go of someone you love
How to DETACH yourself from someone you love while still being open to love
4 guaranteed ways to emotionally detach and rebuild your self-trust
The secret to stop obsessing over someone who doesn't value you
How to transform anxious attachment into secure confidence
Why detachment is actually the key to re-attracting an avoidant
 
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro: How to DETACH yourself from someone you love the MOST02:23 Quick Intro of who I am04:52 The 4 Steps to Emotional Detachment04:58 STEP 01: UNDERSTANDING WHY YOU'RE ATTACHED (7 Reasons)05:03 Reason #1: You put them on a PEDESTAL05:45 Reason #2: You have NEGATIVE BIAS in REVERSE07:20 Reason #3: You've never learned to fulfill your OWN needs12:28 Reason #4: You believe safety comes from OUTSIDE, not WITHIN14:19 Reason #5: You lack SELF-TRUST14:51 Reason #6: You're caught in REPETITION16:25 Reason #7: You're obsessed with CONTROL19:34 Reason #8: You've created a FALSE REALITY21:26 STEP 2: CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS24:23 STEP 03: MEET YOUR OWN NEEDS24:56 01. Give yourself what you need FIRST27:08 02. Create MORE sources to meet your needs29:03 STEP 04: ALIGNED ACTIONS29:52 How detach FAST33:55 Remember this...
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

30: I was the 🚩RED flag in my relationship: 10 raw Lessons I Learned as an ANXIOUS Partner

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🔍 Are you struggling with relationship red flags and don't know why your relationships keep “failing” or feel unfulfilling? In this deeply personal episode, I pull back the curtains on something most people don't want to admit - sometimes WE are the red flag in our anxious-avoidant relationships. As an anxious partner for 30 years, I understand the painful cycle of anxiety, overthinking, and relationship insecurity that comes with an anxious attachment style in relationships.
Do you experience these anxious attachment patterns?
You're constantly fishing for compliments, analyzing every mood shift as a sign something's wrong, turning silence into evidence of abandonment, and never quite believing your partner's reassurance. If this sounds familiar, you might be an anxious partner in an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic! This episode is specifically for YOU! 💕
I share how I transformed from an anxious partner plagued by relationship red flags into someone with a secure attachment style. Through understanding the anxious-avoidant trap and healing my core wounds, I've helped hundreds of clients break free from these painful relationship patterns too.
Discover what happens in the anxious partner's mind during the "chase" (a trauma response!), learn why anxious attachment style in relationships creates such intense emotions, and understand the anxious-avoidant relationship dance that keeps you stuck. I break down how to recognize anxious attachment behaviors, heal relationship red flags you might be creating, and transform your relationships from chaotic to calm and secure.
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7 Powerful Journaling Prompts to STOP Being the Red FLAG in Your Relationship📝✨
What's my biggest fear? 😱
What are three reasons I continue to act despite this fear? 🤔
If I weren't afraid of losing my partner or feeling like I'm not good enough, how would this change the way I show up in my relationship? ❤️‍🔥
Where am I putting too much focus on things I can't control? 🌪
What do I need to give myself in order to feel more secure? 🔐
What do I need to release or let go of to move forward? 🕊️
If I knew for sure that I would be happy and loved, how would I show up differently in my relationship and life? 🌟
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📖 CHAPTERS:
00:00 Relationship Red Flags Intro01:37 Why this is NOT about Shaming or Blaming Yourself02:51 10 Red Flag Relationship Lessons02:56 Lesson 1: Believing Relationships Should Be 50:5005:21 Lesson 2: Pushing "Healing" onto my partner and others07:24 Lesson 3: The Endless Chase: A Trauma Response09:51 Lesson 4: Reacting to Conflict Like It's a Crisis12:42 Lesson 5: Not Trusting Myself (or the Relationship)13:30 Lesson 6: Letting Fear and Anxiety Control My Actions16:19 Lesson 7: Mistaking Intensity for Intimacy17:55 Lesson 8: Ignoring My Core Wound Patterns19:13 Lesson 9: Failing to Set Loving Boundaries20:04 Lesson 10: Creating an Atmosphere of Criticism Instead of Appreciation21:38 The Ripple Effect of Healing23:28 7 Journaling Prompts to STOP being a Red Flag in Your Relationship
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Remember:
Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.