The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

88: What happens when the AVOIDANT realizes they’ve LOST you? Understanding Dismissive Avoidants

How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
"What happens when a dismissive avoidant realizes they lost me?” 🖤✨ A question I get asked as relationship coach a bunch of times.
If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the breakup in your head, wondering: “Is he thinking about me? Does he even care? Will he ever come back?” this episode is for you.
I’ll walk you through the hidden emotional timeline of the avoidant partner after a breakup..the relief phase, the delayed grief, and the subtle breadcrumbs they drop instead of saying “I miss you.”
We’ll explore why they seem fine right away, why their emotions hit them months later, and the indirect ways they try to reconnect when vulnerability feels too dangerous.
Think of it like opening a locked safe..their feelings are inside, but the timing of when they surface might surprise you.
You’ll learn:★ Why avoidants really pull away when things feel “too close”★ The difference between breakup relief and delayed grief★ How to spot those tiny breadcrumbs that mean more than they let on★ Why their suffering shows up AFTER you’ve already cried your tears★ Four powerful steps YOU can take to reclaim your energy and move forward with confidence
This isn’t about waiting for them to change—it’s about understanding the avoidant attachment style better, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally put the focus back on YOU.
If you’re anxiously attached and stuck in the “what ifs,” this episode will give you clarity, relief, and a path to heal while they’re still wrestling with their locked-away emotions.
Press play, and let’s unpack what really happens when the avoidant realizes they lost you. 📓🖤✨
 
CHAPTER:
00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment After a Breakup01:10 What is an Avoidant Attachment Style?02:13 How This Leads to a Breakup03:59 Why They Pull Away06:35 The Breakup RELIEF and Delayed Grief09:43 Indirect Ways They Show They Care11:15 Why Anxious hurt DURING relationships, Avoidant’s AFTER13:14 Empowering yourself after a Breakup 4 Steps16:28 Step 0117:25 Step 0218:12 Step 0318:49 Step 0419:32 Remember THIS
 
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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

87: how to spot emotionally UNAVAILABLE men🕵🏻‍♀️🚩10 CLEAR Signs

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You know that gut-wrenching feeling when he’s into you one moment and distant the next?
When you’re left wondering why he won’t open up, or why your stomach drops every time he pulls away?
That’s what happens when you’re dealing with someone who’s emotionally unavailable.
In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, we’ll break down 10 clear signs of emotional unavailability… plus a bonus one at the end you don’t want to miss.
This will help you spot the patterns fast when you’re dating, or finally understand why your anxiety spikes in your current relationship.
And before we start:
this isn’t about blame 💛 it’s about awareness. Awareness is step one in protecting your heart and nervous system.
We’ll talk about what it really means to be emotionally unavailable, especially in dismissive avoidants…why they crave closeness but fear it, how mixed signals and lack of affection leave you anxious, and the painful gap between what they say they want and what they actually do.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional work, begging for crumbs of affection, or whispering in your head,
 
“Does he even care?”… this episode will hit home.
Stick with me until the end, because the bonus sign reveals why words and actions so often don’t line up… and why that mismatch keeps you stuck on people who feel impossible to reach.
 
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 10 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable00:36 What is the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style at all?02:45 01 They dodge deeper conversations04:35 02 They’re inconsistent in communication06:24 03 They don’t prioritize you07:43 04 Fear of commitment or future talk09:38 05 They invalidate your feelings10:58 06 Affection feels limited or conditional12:07 07 They disappear under stress13:06 08 Overly focused on independence13:57 09 Mixed signals14:50 10 You feel emotionally starved16:20 BONUS SIGN: Actions vs. Words in Relationships18:31 If you are attracted to THESE men - WHAT NOW?
 
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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

86: dismissive AVOIDANT ❤️‍🩹 emotionally UNavailable, or just NOT that into you?

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Have you ever dated someone who felt close one moment and distant the next? Or maybe you’ve wondered if your partner is emotionally unavailable, avoidant attached, or simply not interested at all. 🖤
This episode untangles one of the most confusing parts of modern dating and relationships: the difference between emotionally unavailable men, dismissive avoidant partners, and those who are just not into you.
Inside, you’ll hear:
What “emotionally unavailable” actually means (and why even secure men or husbands can go through it).
The difference between a partner who’s avoidant attached vs. someone temporarily checked out.
How emotionally distant partners show up in dating, relationships, and marriage.
The one question to ask yourself when you feel stuck over their mixed signals.
This episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast,
I break it all down so you’ll finally know whether your partner’s distance is a passing phase, an avoidant attachment wound, or a sign they don’t want a deeper commitment.
If you’ve been replaying texts, questioning your worth, or wondering why your emotionally unavailable boyfriend or husband won’t open up…this episode is for you…
 
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CHAPTER:
00:00 Understanding Emotional Availability01:33 What does “emotionally unavailable” actually mean02:22 SECURE but Emotionally Unavailable04:34 Emotionally Unavailable (general, not always avoidant)05:55 Avoidant Attachment (dismissive avoidant)10:52 The Reddit Take13:12 The “Just Not That Into You” piece14:49 Final breakdown18:17 In short ASK yourself THIS
 
 
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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

85: Do I Have an Anxious Attachment Style? Free Attachment Style QUIZ

Attachment Style QUIZ –
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Ever catch yourself panicking when someone pulls away… overthinking every text… or feeling like no matter how much love you get, it’s never enough?
If that sounds like you, this episode is MADE for you. We’re diving into attachment styles
secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized so you can finally understand why you feel the way you do in love. 
This isn’t about labels or “fixing yourself.” It’s about awareness, clarity, and seeing your patterns with curiosity. ✨
 
I’ll walk you through:▶️ A 10-question quiz to see your attachment style▶️ Real-life examples of each style in dating & relationships▶️ The difference between anxious and disorganized attachment▶️ How to start creating security from within—without needing your partner to “fix” anything
 
Bonus:
I share my personal story of realizing why I overthink, panic, and crave reassurance, and how that awareness changed everything in my relationships.
Grab your notes app 📝 or a piece of paper, and let’s get clarity on your love patterns—so you can start feeling safe, confident, and seen in love.
 
This quiz is your roadmap to understanding yourself, your nervous system, and your patterns in love.
🎧 Listen now and start seeing your relationships in a whole new way.
 
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Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety
✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
 
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles02:39 Free Attachment Style Quiz04:07 Question 0104:35 Question 0205:01 Question 0305:20 Question 0405:54 Question 0506:33 Question 0607:14 Question 0707:34 Question 0808:07 The Quiz Result09:30 Secure Attachment10:24 Anxious Attachment12:24 Avoidant Attachment14:00 Disorganized Attachment15:56 What's the Difference between Anxious + Disorganised Attachment Style17:06 The TAKEAWAY18:27 Coaching and Support Options19:06 BIG attachment theory LIE

84: Gilmore Girls Attachment Styles EXPLAINED *Part 02 (Rory, Dean, Jess, Tristan, Logan)

Stop letting THEIR slow replies ruin YOUR day. Take back your calm in 21 Days or less because your anxiety is about YOU, not them.
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Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown  (Part 2): Rory & Her Relationships 
 
Welcome back to part two of the Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown! Today we’re diving deep into Rory’s world—her relationships, dating patterns, and why she’s attracted to certain types of people like Dean, Jess, Logan, and even Tristan.
 
If you haven’t watched part one yet,
I recommend starting there to understand the foundation of the characters’ attachment styles, including Lorelai, Luke, Christopher, Emily, and Richard
 
In this episode, we explore:✨ Rory’s anxious attachment style with disorganized edges✨ How her upbringing shaped her relationship patterns✨ Why she chases unavailable partners and idolizes her boyfriends✨ The push-and-pull dynamic with Dean, Jess, Logan, and Tristan✨ How her self-worth ties to achievement, school, and love✨ The patterns that make her relationships challenging✨ My #1 tip for Rory (and anyone with anxious tendencies) to finally feel secure in love
 
We also break down:💛 Dean – anxious attachment, craving closeness but over-investing emotionally💚 Jess – disorganized tendencies, rebellious and protective, struggles with vulnerability💙 Tristan – classic avoidant, keeps emotional distance, immature and testing Rory💜 Logan – avoidant with some disorganized traits, charming but emotionally inconsistent
 
If you’re anxious in love like Rory,
the real shift happens when you build security within yourself first.
 
When you stop chasing emotional red flags, you attract reliable, loving partners and create healthier dynamics in all areas of your life.
 
 
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📌 Don’t forget to comment below:Who’s your favorite Rory boyfriend? And do you relate to Rory’s anxious tendencies in love?
 
Thanks for watching and doing the work with me! Happy autumn and remember, change in your relationships starts with you—thought by thought, action by action.
 
 
 
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro to Gilmore Girls Attachments Styles01:28 Rory's Attachment Style11:46 Dean's Attachment Style20:30 Jess Mariano's Attachment Style25:24 Tristan's Attachment Style30:56 Logan Huntzberger's Attachment Style36:49 My BIGGEST relationship Advice for RORY
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

83: Gilmore Girls Attachment Styles REVEALED Part 01 (Lorelai, Luke, Emily, Richard..)

✨ Are you rewatching Gilmore Girls (again 😅) and secretly analyzing every relationship? In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, I (Jula, relationship coach) break down the attachment styles of Lorelai, Luke, Christopher, and Emily through the lens of attachment theory.
You’ll hear:★ Why Lorelai shows so many signs of disorganized attachment (fearful avoidant).★ Why Luke might not be fully avoidant after all… and how he leans more secure than you think.★ How Christopher’s push–pull patterns mirror a fearful avoidant style.★ And Emily’s anxious tendencies (with disorganized edges and even some narcissistic flavors).
If you’ve ever struggled with relationship anxiety, abandonment fears, or wondered why do I pull close, then push away?… you’ll see yourself in these characters. 
Grab a coffee, get cozy, and let’s watch Gilmore Girls with completely new eyes. 
 
Don’t forget to subscribe if you love relationship deep dives, attachment theory explained simply, and cozy podcast chats.
 
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 
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Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety
✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
 
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Exploring Attachment Styles in Gilmore Girls00:59 What is Attachment theory (in short)03:00 Lorelai's Attachment Style09:17 Luke's Attachment Style16:01 Christopher's Attachment Style (Rory's father)22:25 Emily's Gilmore's Attachment Style28:52 IS Lorelai a NARCISSIST?32:37 Richard's Attachment Style36:32 Who do you want to see NEXT?

82: "Unknown Number" Netflix Doc EXPLAINED When a Parent Becomes a Predator - Narcissism, Abuse & Trauma

my personal deep dive into Netflix’s Unknown Number:
The High School Catfish. 🖤 I’ve been following the comments, the social media conversations, and the shock around Kendra Licari’s story — and I want to take this beyond what the documentary shows.
Netflix gave us the facts. But what about the IMPACT?
The emotional abuse. The grooming. The way a disorganized attachment style can trap someone in fear, shame, and confusion.
That’s the part that hit me hardest .. and that’s where my work as a relationship coach comes in. In this episode, I talk about the red flags most people miss, how parental manipulation destroys self-trust, and why trauma bonding makes it so hard to leave abusive dynamics.
I also share what actually helps: nervous system regulation, boundaries that protect your safety, and rebuilding secure attachment step by step. If you’ve seen the Unknown Number Netflix trailer, read The Cut article on Kendra Licari, or scrolled through the heated debates online — this episode is for you.
Because it’s not just about a documentary. It’s about real people, real trauma, and the reminder that healing and safety ARE possible.
Takeaways: What Netflix didn’t show about the Unknown Number documentary. The deeper emotional impact of grooming and manipulation. How disorganized attachment keeps people stuck in toxic cycles.
Why trauma bonding makes breaking away so complicated.
The role of parental control, secrecy, and narcissistic behaviors.
The importance of spotting red flags early. How daily regulation practices + professional support accelerate healing.
Why boundaries are the foundation of safety and recovery.
Why love doesn’t have to feel like chaos.
WORK WITH ME, COURSES + FREE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached:
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3 MIN QUIZ DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

81: "It only takes 8 seconds" 📱 WHY isn't He replying? (THIS will soothe your relationship anxiety)

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It only takes eight seconds… or does it? ⏰ 
 
Remember scrolling Instagram, seeing that reel, and thinking,
“Why isn’t he replying? It’s just eight seconds!”
 
That’s exactly how anxious attachment tricks us making us chase validation, obsess over texts, and feel like every delayed reply is rejection.
In this episode, I unpack why this “eight-second trap” fuels anxiety, overthinking, and the addictive chase cycle. I share why your emotional safety doesn’t depend on anyone else, how to stop texting obsessively, and the step-by-step tools I use (and teach clients) to calm your brain and feel secure on your own.
 
We talk real examples: heart racing when they’re “typing,” overanalyzing likes, messages, and stories, and feeling too much in love or friendship.
I also share practical actions—from journaling out your thoughts, setting boundaries for yourself, spotting patterns without personalizing, and walking away from crumbs—to reclaim your peace and confidence.
If you’ve ever felt anxious waiting for a text, overanalyzed replies, or let someone else control your emotions, this episode is your guide to healing your anxious attachment, trusting yourself, and stopping the chase.
 
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 The Eight Second Dilemma03:12 Why its makes sense to want them to reply quickly (but it's wrong)05:45 The Viral "if he wanted to he would" video08:03 5 Reasons Why This Is Toxic for Anxious Attachment12:54 How action plan to feel more secure when they don't reply
 
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Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
 
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
 
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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

80: 5 things I would NEVER do as a SECURE Partner (lessons for healing anxious attachment)

Remember those red flats from my 20s (that probably STILL get overthought if not addressed…)?
The ones I wore on a first date, nervously texting back and overthinking every move?
That was me before I started healing my anxious attachment. In this episode, I share 5 things I would NEVER do again as my securely attached self and the lessons that came from years of dating, heartbreak, and self-discovery.
 
I dive into letting go of people-pleasing, chasing connection, and believing every anxious thought meant danger, and what I do now instead to show up confidently in love, friendships, and even with family. 
If you’ve struggled with anxious attachment, overthinking texts, or feeling “too much” in relationships, this episode is your guide to showing up securely, honoring your needs, and trusting yourself in love.
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Intro01:46 5 Things I’d NEVER Do as a Secure Partner + Healed Anxiously Attached Woman02:50 01. I don’t say the same boundary 5 times with no consequence06:45 02. I don’t “go along” with things that feel bad just to avoid tension08:54 03. I don’t chase connection when it’s not being met halfway11:51 04. I don’t stay silent just to be “easy”13:41 05. I don’t make everything mean something about me16:32 Why you Don't need MORE reassurance19:50 06. BONUS: I stopped BELIEVING every anxious thought meant “I’m in danger”
 
 
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How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

79: VISUALISATION: From Anxious to Secure Attachment in Your Sleep (rewire your brain to overcome anxiety)

LISTEN BEFORE BED to Rewire your Mind in your sleep :) Struggling with relationship anxiety or anxious attachment? This gentle guided visualization helps you feel SECURE, grounded, and calm in your relationships. I’m Jula, your anxious-to-secure attachment coach, and I’ll guide you to slowly release old patterns and step into the confident, playful version of YOU.
Listen when your mind is most open, before sleep, first thing in the morning, or after meditation or breathwork..when your brain is in a theta state and hyper-suggestible. 🌻💛 By rehearsing calm, secure moments in your mind’s eye, you can literally rewire your thoughts and body to feel safe, worthy, and steady.
Imagine waking lighter, noticing small joys, and feeling your worth untouchable..without needing anyone else’s approval. This practice helps you pause, release tension, and trust yourself, even when others are distant or plans change. 🪞✨ Drift into calm, connect with your inner strength, and attract relationships that match your authentic, secure energy.
Safe space only. Not a replacement for therapy. Your journey from anxious to secure starts here..thought by thought, image by image.
 
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction to Future VISUALISATION for Relationship Anxiety01:14 Disclaimer01:37 Listen before SLEEP: From Anxious to Secure Attachment in Your Sleep
 
 
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Grab more FREE resources:
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Like….
Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety
✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached
How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
 
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.