The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

64: How to Process Emotions in a Healthy Way (In Just 90 Seconds) ✨ Stop Letting Anxiety Control Your Relationship

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If you struggle with anxiety in relationships...If your emotions feel like they’re too much...If you overthink, spiral, or shut down when you're triggered...
This episode is for you 🖤
You’ll learn a simple, science-backed 3-step formula to process emotions in a healthy way.. in just 90 seconds. YES, really. ⏱
 
Yes, this is the process how to actually SIT with your feelings, how to allow them, do a body scan so you can be in control of your emotions, and become more resilient.
 
This is the method I teach all my anxious attachment clients to help them feel calmer, more in control, and SAFER in their own body... without pushing feelings away, texting for reassurance, or blowing up at their partner.
 
 Inside this episode:➞ Why emotions get “stuck” in your body➞ How to stop spiraling after a trigger (even if your partner cancels plans)➞ The exact steps to calm anxiety, overwhelm, fear, or jealousy➞ Real-time coaching & relatable examples➞ PLUS: A 7-day challenge to build your emotional resilience 🌻
This isn’t toxic positivity.This is real emotional mastery.Let’s help your nervous system feel SAFE again.
 
📍 CHAPTERS:
00:00 The Importance of Processing Emotions and Sitting with the Feeling03:53 The 3-Step Formula (90 Sec Rule) to feel your emotion04:51 Step 01: Allow it06:06 Step 02: Name it to Tame it07:40 Step 03: Describe it with Curiosity10:11 Bonus Step: Move with it11:21 How to process ANXIETY: Real Life Step-by-Step Example12:22 Step 01: Allow Anxiety to Be There13:55 Step 02: Name Your Feeling (“A part of me feels...”)15:07 Step 03: Describe the Sensation with Curiosity17:40 Tips for When You Sit with Emotions for the First Time20:49 Do THIS for 7 Days and Become Emotionally Resilient
 
 
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P.S.You're not broken.You're just feeling deeply.Let’s help your emotions work for you instead of against you 🤍
 
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 

63: The Body Keeps the Score Summary + Anxious Attachment: Healing Your Nervous System

Have you ever thought…
“I know my partner loves me, so why do I still spiral over a delayed text?”
“Why does my body feel like it’s under attack - even when nothing’s wrong?”
Or why can't I feel calm when Im telling myself to calm down?
 
In this episode, I’m sharing something that changed the way I see my own anxiety..and my body. 
 
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk helped me finally connect the dots between my silent migraines, my chronic overthinking in relationships, and the deep survival patterns wired into my nervous system.
 
I’ll share:✣ The birthday moment where my migraines got so bad I couldn’t even see the candles ..:(✣ Why trauma isn’t just a big event — it’s what your body remembers✣ 10 key takeaways from the book that explain exactly how anxious attachment shows up in your body✣ What to do when your body panics, even if your partner hasn't done anything wrong
Because if you’ve ever:➞ Felt abandoned over a slow reply➞ Gone from “I’m fine” to “They’re leaving me” in 0.2 seconds➞ Experienced anxiety that shows up as pain, stomach issues, tension, or emotional flooding...
Then this episode will be for you!
 
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📱 Text + Talk CoachingPrivate voice + text support to help you in those anxious moments...when you’re hurt, spiraling, or feeling unseen. Flexible. Affordable. Safe. A monthly subscription.
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🎯 Mini-CoursesTo stop overthinking your relatonship or manage text anxiety.
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🌱 Anxious to Secure CoachingThis is the full transformation.. with bi-weekly calls + support in-between.
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach#collection-c2462624-55df-4b4d-a2e0-c24816d724b4
 
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction to Healing Anxious Attachment03:19 How Anxious Attachment Impacts your Body Long-term04:48 10 Lessons of The Body Keeps the Score + Anxious Attachment04:56 Lesson 0107:08 Lesson 0208:19 Lesson 0309:50 Lesson 0410:48 Lesson 0512:09 Lesson 0613:37 Lesson 0718:53 Lesson 0821:33 Lesson 0923:36 Lesson 10

62: Q+A Series 3: Can anxious and avoidant relationships work? How to break the anxious avoidant cycle

I remember one night… I was crying. Not loudly.Just quietly. Silently.And he didn’t even look up. 
I didn’t need him to fix it.I just needed him to care. To ask. To hold me. To see me.
But instead.. I felt invisible.Like I was too sensitive… or just not enough to be comforted.
That moment? It stuck with me.Not because of what he did — but because of the old wound it reopened.
If you’ve ever felt that ache like your partner’s emotional distance confirms a fear you’ve carried your whole life…This episode is for you. 🖤
Today on the Anxious Secure Podcast, I’m unpacking one of the most triggering, magnetic, and misunderstood dynamics in love: the anxious-avoidant relationship.
We’re diving into:
Can an anxious-avoidant relationship really work?Why do they attract each other in the first place?How does the anxious partner mirror avoidance from childhood?
 
What you’ll learn:
Why your partner pulling away hurts way more than it “should”
How your nervous system is reliving childhood experiences — not just reacting to today
Why the avoidant pulls back when you need closeness most
How your needs might feel threatening to someone who never learned emotional intimacy
And what happens when YOU stop taking their distance as proof that you’re too much
 
 I’d love to hear from you:
Have you ever felt that moment... needing comfort and getting silence instead?Share it under the YouTube video. You are so not alone, babe. 🖤
 
Want more support?
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YOUTUBE: 
@theanxioustosecurecoach
 
📱 Text + Talk CoachingPrivate voice + text support to help you in those anxious moments...when you’re hurt, spiraling, or feeling unseen. Flexible. Affordable. Safe. A monthly subscription.
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
 
🎯 Mini-CoursesTo stop overthinking your relatonship or manage text anxiety.
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach#collection-7296bbea-c006-4a7c-bd46-2e21b9f64fca
 
🌱 Anxious to Secure CoachingThis is the full transformation.. with bi-weekly calls + support in-between.
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach#collection-c2462624-55df-4b4d-a2e0-c24816d724b4
 
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics01:06 Can an anxious-avoidant relationship REALLY work?04:15 What made the biggest difference in breaking this pattern, the Anxious-Avoidant trap?15:55 Why do they attract each other in the first place - the anxious and avoidant?20:11 What's the first thing you can recommend, for Anyone with an anxious attachment can try today?
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

61:Q+A Series: How I healed my Anxious attachment & Why its Easier than you think Part 02

   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
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🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
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I used to think healing anxious attachment would take YEARS.Therapy forever. Reading every book. Never quite getting “there.”
But what if I told you it can actually happen faster?Like… within months.. not decades.
In this episode, I’m sharing the exact method I used to go from crying in parks 🌧 to becoming secure, empowered, and finally SAFE in my own body and relationships.
It didn’t happen by luck.I created a repeatable framework that I now use with all my clients:The 4R Method ➞ Release. Rewire. Reconnect. Reflect. 
 
🖤 You’ll hear the behind-the-scenes of my healing process - from spirals and shutdowns… to building confidence, emotional safety, and actual freedom in love.
And I’ll answer the BIG questions I get asked all the time:✶ How did you actually go from anxious to secure?✶ What was the one belief you had to let go of to heal?✶ What did you replace it with instead?✶ What do most people get wrong about anxious attachment?✶ Can you really become secure - even if it’s felt hard for YEARS?
This is your reminder:💭 you are not your past patterns💭 your brain can change💭 and yes - secure love is possible for YOU
You don’t need to fix yourself to be loved.You just need to meet yourself in a new way 🤍
Let’s dive in 🖤
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Anxious Attachment Q+A PART 200:51 How did you go from anxious to secure?12:01 What is one belief you had to let go of to heal?17:50 What did you replace this belief with?21:16 What do people get wrong about an anxious attachment style?28:09 What is one myth you hear all the time?
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

60: Q+A Series: How attachment theory changed my relationship + life: From breakdown to Breakthrough Part 01

🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
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🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
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I once threw a remote across the room. 😮‍💨I’m not proud of it..BUT I also don’t shame that version of me anymore.
Back then, I didn’t know how to handle conflict. I didn’t know how to self-soothe.
I didn’t know that what was happening in my nervous system wasn’t “crazy,” it was ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT running the show.
In this super vulnerable episode, I take you deep inside my relationship journey… the intense arguments, the emotional shutdowns, and the moment I was literally crying in the grass at a London park thinking, “we can’t keep doing this… but breaking up also feels impossible.”
I also share how discovering attachment theory changed everything — my patterns, my health, my thoughts, and eventually, my career. This is not just about becoming secure with a partner. It’s about becoming secure within yourself 🖤
 
In this episode, I share:✶ The shift that helped me and my partner stop spiraling after fights✶ What I believed about myself when I felt “too much” or “not enough”✶ Why my body was also begging me to heal (yes, migraines + chronic stress)✶ How I stopped needing constant reassurance + started self-validating✶ The real reason anxious attachment feels SO intense (it’s not just about your partner)
 
This episode is your reminder that you’re not alone.And you're not broken. You're just running old patterns.And patterns can be re-written.. thought by thought, action by action.✨
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction to Jula's Journey to Being an Anxious Attachment Relationship Coach00:45 What inspired you to become a relationship coach?14:44 Was there a moment when it all clicked?23:08 What was your LOWEST point in love?27:56 What did you believe about yourself back then?31:28 How did us discovering attachment theory shift your life?40:02 What was your biggest "OMG this is ME" moment about Attachment theory??43:23 What helped most when you felt stuck?
 
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

59: the ONE thing you're doing WRONG if you have an anxious attachment (and what works better with the avoidant partner)

If you’re anxiously attached and feel like you’re RUINING every good relationship... this episode might just be your wake-up call 
🖤 Do you chase closeness when your partner pulls away?🖤 Do you try to FIX the disconnection… by doing MORE?🖤 Do you spiral in your head wondering “Did I say something wrong?”🖤 Are you exhausted from overgiving, overthinking, and over performing… and STILL feeling unsafe in love?
 
You're not crazy. You're not too much.But your nervous system thinks you’re in danger—and it’s running the show.
In this episode, I’m sharing:✣ the #1 MISTAKE most anxious attachers make (without even realizing it)✣ why “doing more” actually pushes love away✣ the invisible FIGHT MODE pattern that’s draining your nervous system✣ how to finally feel SAFE without chasing or fixing everything✣ 4 quick steps to get out of the spiral and back into your power and to create more connection with your avoidant attached partner
 
Here’s a story I’ve never shared like this before…
Back when I lived in London, I had this one tiny habit that changed everything…I stopped running for the bus.Like—I saw it coming… and I LET it go.
Why?Because my whole body was in panic mode 24/7.My brain thought every moment was urgent.So I was teaching my nervous system a new truth:✨ We’re not in danger.✨ We don’t have to rush.✨ We’re safe to slow down.
That’s how healing starts.Not just with knowing the patterns—but with retraining your body to feel safe in love 💭💋🖤
 
Listen to today’s episode of the anxious to secure podcast
if you're tired of feeling like you're “too much” or like you always have to work for love.
Let’s shift out of overgiving and into inner safety, one breath at a time ✨🖤
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
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🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
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🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Are you doing THIS wrong too?? UPS...01:23 THE BIG MISTAKE03:53 What happens in your body?05:25 The Cycle of Fight or Flight or Freeze06:54 How it impact ALL other areas of life09:45 The root cause10:18 Why your body thinks we are living in CAVES11:25 The HOW....17:19 Remember this18:33 Quick RESETS: Regulating Emotions and Building Safety
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

58: Anxious Attachment Q+A: How to Stop Overthinking and Ruining a Good Relationship - 4 Steps

Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety
✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached
 
Are you with someone GOOD…but you can’t stop overthinking, spiraling, or self-sabotaging?You’re not broken. You’re just operating from anxious attachment... and it’s exhausting.
In this video, I’ll walk you through 4 simple but powerful steps to stop overthinking, feel calmer in love, and actually enjoy a GOOD relationship (without pushing them away 💛)
 
🖤 How to break the reassurance loop🖤 What’s really behind your fears🖤 The shift from “Is it safe?” ➞ “I can handle it”🖤 Journal prompts + mindset hacks that work
 
🎙 Real talk. No fluff. No shame…Let's break the anxious patterns that keep you stuck…and build safety from the inside out.
 
00:00 Today's Q+A: Spiraling when I don't hear back even though she reassures me.01:35 Understanding what's happening with your Body when triggered02:52 Why this “waiting spiral” hits so hard...05:52 Why the Trigger is not about the PRESENT moment, about your partner08:26 MICRO-EXAMPLES of past roots10:56 Coaching Questions (to connect to YOUR story)12:43 What To Do Going Forward15:11 Why logic alone isn’t enough...16:13 The 4R METHOD Your New Action Plan17:14 ✶ 01 RELEASE the emotion22:19 Question you can ask yourself23:05 ✶ 02 REWIRE your beliefs25:00 ✶ 03 RECONNECT with yourself29:31 ✶ 04 REFLECT on your shadow31:11 MINI ACTION PLAN To create emotional safety35:21 How to Work with me or Free Resources
 
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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 

57: How to soothe your ANXIETY with 💛✨the 3 Course DOPAMINE Menu (30+ ideas))

Here are Dopamine Menu Ideas That ACTUALLY Work For Anxious Attachment ✨💛
Your dopamine menu is EVERYTHING if you have an anxious attachment style 
Why?Because it helps you stop chasing those quick emotional hits from your partner. You’ll stop needing constant texting, reassurance, or obsessing over every little thing 💭📱
Even that urge to stalk your ex online? 👀✨ It starts to fade.
In this episode of Anxious to Secure, Jula breaks down how to build your OWN ✨slow dopamine menu✨ to help you feel more SECURE from the inside out 🛟💛
If you’ve ever felt glued to your phone waiting for a reply...Or replayed a convo on a loop in your head...This episode is for YOU 🖤
So what’s a dopamine menu anyway?You’ve probably seen the trend on IG or TikTok — usually it’s about boosting energy or focus 💡💃
But here’s what no one is talking about Dopamine menus can actually help soothe your nervous system 💛✨and shift anxious attachment patterns for GOOD 
This episode dives into:✨ the science of dopamine✨ how it fuels those emotional rollercoasters✨ how to REWIRE your brain with grounding, secure habits
You’ll learn how to swap fast dopamine spikes (like texting, scrolling, or binging) for small, SAFE, meaningful moments that actually calm your system 🧘🏼‍♀️📓
You’ll walk away with a 3-part dopamine menu you can start using TODAY 
From: -tiny starter habits that gently wake up your brain -to main meals that boost your dopamine through connection + creativity -to dessert-style rewards that help you feel satisfied + SAFE 💛✨
This isn’t just a cute Pinterest trend —This is about retraining your brain to stop chasing CHAOS ✖️and start choosing ✨CALM, CLARITY + CONNECTION✨
Perfect for anyone who:✶ feels like silence from a partner sends them into a spiral ⛈✶ constantly checks messages, stalks profiles, or replays convos 📱✶ uses food, social, or distractions to numb the anxiety 🍫✶ wants to feel EMOTIONALLY SAFE + in control again 
Let’s rewrite the way your brain experiences LOVE, connection, and calm One tiny dopamine habit at a time 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 What is the Dopamine Menu trend?
02:01 QUICK dopamine - aka fast and dirty dopamine
05:01 Slow dopamine - aka clean, real dopamine
08:09 Why dopamine MATTERS for anxious attachment
09:33 Why YOU need a dopamine menu for anxious attachment - The REAL tiny moments
12:05 Your 3 Course Anxious Attachment Dopamine Menu
14:20 Your Dopamine Starter Menu
18:26 MAIN Dopamine Course Menu
24:00 Your Dessert Dopamine Menu
27:37 Remember
 
 
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🖤 3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

56. (15 STEPS) How to Fix an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship - the pyramid method

Are you stuck on the anxious‑avoidant relationship rollercoaster?
Feeling like every conversation ends in confusion, distance, or chasing?
In this episode of the Anxious to Secure podcast, you'll learn how to fix an Anxious‑Avoidant Relationship in 15 Steps.
I’m breaking down a powerful 15‑step pyramid framework from the five BIGGEST mistakes that keep you stuck, all the way up to the ONE core change that transforms your connection. 
 
Here’s what I’m walking you through in this episode:
📍 A quick story of me and my avoidant partner in a tiny London flat… both of us triggered, stuck in our patterns ... and what finally helped things shift.
📍 The 5 emotional blocks that keep you stuck at the bottom... like believing this is just who I am or pretending you don’t care (when you definitely do).
📍 The 4 things that feel like healing but kinda... aren’t... like trying to be perfect, holding it all in, rehearsing the “right” words, or testing if they care.
📍 The 3 tools that help, but don’t fully move the needle... like leaning on secure friends, calming your nervous system, or setting boundaries (but still feeling anxious inside).
📍 The 2 shifts that actually change your attachment... learning to trust yourself and rewiring those sneaky beliefs like I have to be chill or I’ll be too much.
📍 And the ONE thing at the top that changes everything... stepping into your secure self (not just acting it, actually becoming it).
 
This episode is perfect for anxious‑avoidant partners ready to:
Stop overthinking, people‑pleasing, chasing
Rewire your nervous system and your beliefs
Build emotional self‑trust and real boundaries
Finally move from anxious attachment to secure love 
 Expect curiosity‑sparking questions, a touch of real‑life storytelling, and actionable steps you can start using today.
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
♥️  YOUTUBE:
 (4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLi57Sgd3nE&t=1567s
 
🚩Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? 🚩How do you know if an Avoidant likes You
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XhIX4kMBYrU&t=1202s&list=PLkaamihHgLaG0GI37seXdVADSfx8hv-La
 
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
 
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
 

55: You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship...You want THIS:

You don’t actually want a relationship.Not really. Not in the way you think.
You don’t want someone just to text you good morning…or cuddle you at night…or talk about the future 🛏📱💍
You think that’s the dream.But underneath all of it?You’re chasing a very different outcome - one you don’t always realize.
 
You want to finally feel SAFE.You want to finally feel CHOSEN - like you’re ENOUGH.You want to stop second-guessing yourself every time they pull away.You want to stop living on edge... waiting for the other shoe to drop.You want to feel like YOU make sense - like you're not "too much" or "too needy."
 
Because what you're really craving is:emotional regulationinternal validationa steady nervous systema love that doesn’t feel like a high-stakes performancea break from feeling like you always have to earn love
Your anxious attachment isn’t just looking for a partner.It’s looking for RELIEF.It’s looking for SAFETY.It’s looking for HOME.
And if you're thinking, "Wait... that’s me"Don’t just take my word for it 🔍
 
Listen now to understand what you’re TRULY looking for...and most importantly, get the step-by-step action plan to finally give it to yourself 🗝️
 
CHAPTERS:
00:00 You DON'T want A Secure Partner and Relationship... You want THIS:02:30 The Real Chase - You’re After a Feeling04:35 Why It’s Never Enough (Until You Give It to Yourself)05:46 Why you treat your partner as your Parent09:17 THE SOLUTION: What Are You REALLY Trying to Get From Your Partner?12:16 How to Work with me14:46 PART 02: Your Action Plan15:41 How to feel worthy16:59 How to feel Chosen19:55 How to feel emotionally safe21:25 How to feel more connected23:48 How to feel reassured24:14 Extend This Love Beyond Yourself26:48 REMEMBER THIS...
 
🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:
FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more) 
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
 
🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
 
♥️  YOUTUBE:
 (4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLi57Sgd3nE&t=1567s